Another boring dating one - am I being shallow?

[Notaboutthebass]

Dating is fruitless. My search is up 30 miles away (I'm not spending my precious time travelling over a few hours just to see a fella, but I generally don't feel like I'm being shallow as I go for a big smile and who seems to have a nice personality by the words they use on their profile.
I'm 5 ft 3 and I tend to go for someone between 5 ft 5 and 5 ft 8/9 as someone over 6 ft tends to scare me if they tower over me. I feel like I can't connect with them and like someone to be more on my level when kissing!
I find that so many men are very very tall on dating sites, and I feel like maybe I'm missing out by swiping left all the time.
Is this shallow, shall I try and match more?
Finding it all very hard work, just want to find someone that ticks all right boxes.

I’ve heard that men exaggerate their height on dating sites…

From experience you can often expect what walks through the door to be several inches shorter than the profile states. They're not gospel in any sense of the word.

Men that say they're 6ft 1 are usually 5ft 9!

That's bizarre - I'm 5ft 9 and I've only ever met one bloke who was 6ft, the rest have been my height or smaller!

If you find a guy of 5'10 then that means he's more like 5'8/9. I'm 5'8 and quite often I've been taller than them!

Yes I think men tend to exaggerate their height as a lot of women don’t want to date someone under 5”10.

You have to be joking?

Im 5ft 8. It’s really hard finding men taller than me.

I'm 5 11" I tend to take heights with a pinch os salt as they all seem to round up to 6 foot. Pop it on your profile though as a lot of 5 8" will assume there's no opportunities for them.

Seems to be that many liars on there! Why... when you're going to find out anyway? Stupid.
Got chatting to someone the other day, he was super keen and surprisingly I was too (for a change!) he was saying I'll stop looking now blah blah, then the next day he's been out on a date and it's gone well. I have no luck, I am picky but think that's a really good thing.

You can be as shallow as you like when you're dating but this is oddly specific and quite limiting. 5 ft 5 and 5 ft 8/9 So a 3/4 inch window on height...why are you scared? Have you had a bad experience?

Men exaggerating size...now there's a suprise!

I guess they’re hoping to hook you in with an exaggerated description and then win you over with their personality when you meet them in person 🙄

I don’t think about height personally but maybe that’s because I’ve had my babies and I’m not looking for good DNA, just someone I get on with!

You’re allowed to be as picky as you like, and maybe your tastes/desires will change over time. I wouldn’t get too obsessed with your tick list. Just see who you like the look of, how you get on when you meet and if you want to meet up again.

Men measure everything generously... themselves, fish... always adding an extra few inches!

Thank you for the replies.
Yes my window is a bit bigger than that.
I think I'll state it in my profile, how would I phrase it without sounding too rigid?
I might be associating 2 bad relationships with it but I need to get over that!

@Iwritethissittinginthekitchensink yeah I'm going to ignore the height thing for a bit. Thanks.

I've met men OLD who've turned out to be shorter than me .. and as my window was set at 5ft 9 and above .. was a bit of a mystery as I'm only 5 ft 4 😂😂😂

The lying bothered me more than the height

I don't get why people lie, I don't have it in me, it makes me mad.

I’d probably put something like “looks, height, build not important - just looking for someone I click with” or something, to make it clear you’re not shallow. Anyone tall and buff will still try their luck if they fancy you. But at least the others will also know you’re open to it too.

I’m a little taller than you and have been married to DH for 26 years, he is 6ft 2. I always joke height is irrelevant when your laying down. Our DS is 6ft 5 and women are like bees round honey with him. He has a lovely GF who looks really tiddly next to him as she is about your height. She is however an absolute powerhouse of a young woman and if he doesn’t marry her I will be annoyed :) we joke we both have small woman syndrome.

Be really picky, my favourite was my hairdresser dumping her BF as she didn’t like the way he nibbled at apples.

@Notaboutthebass Men lie because women are too polite. I never had to OLD but if a bloke had obviously lied about his height I would call it out. I just don’t kowtow to men and all their BS.

@SteveHarringtonsChestHair good idea, thank you.
@Sweeperbot thank you. Haha, like the apples comment, I think she did right there!
'women are too polite' - not me - I tell it how it is!