Hello
I have a question and would like to hear your opinions.
Basically, I was with my BF (of 6 months) on Sunday, and we were lying in bed. He was showing me a picture he took the night before. He then got a notification before he put his phone down, he looked at it briefly, dismissed it, and then put his phone down. I saw, what looked like a message, with a "profile picture" next to it, so like someones icon. It was a brunette lady and the message was very short but had a 'X' at the end. I didnt think anything of it but later I asked if a girl had messaged him. I apologised and said I felt silly asking. He didnt know what I was talking about and got his phone, opened his texts and showed me his recent messages.
I forgot about it and thought I was being silly. I'm not saying girls cant message him, if they are friends, but I know what I saw and if it was just a message, why deny it?
Later that evening when I was home, I asked him about it again and said if he did recieve a message, he should just say. He was shocked and started sending me screenshots of his other message platforms to show he didnt recieve anything. He then got arsey and ignored me for 24 hours. He claimed he was busy but then admitted he wasn't happy with what I was saying.
He has told me a similar story with his ex, he said she woke one night and "imagined" seeing a picture of a girl on his phone. He said she must have been daydreaming - but that all seems odd to me, so what are we both a little crazy and imagining things?
I feel so silly but its lying thats upsetting me. He was being horrible during the day when he eventually got in touch and just acting like a different person. He then sent me an "in future list" which was basically bulletin points to avoid this happening again, i.e him being annoyed. That majorly pissed me off.
I told him his behaviour yesterday was strange, not speaking to me for a whole day, not reading my messages from the night before and being arsey about everything. He then found a message thread from 3 months ago (yes, 3 months ago!) where I didnt message him back for 5 hours because I was working. He then said he did nothing wrong by not messaging back because he was busy and then asked why it is okay for me to not message him back.
This is all just bloody daft, isnt it!!!
What would you do? Stop talking about the whole thing - think that you maybe made a mistake with what you saw, or think there is more to it? For reference, he hasnt done anything to make me doubt him and we often chats /see each other lots.