no desire for my boyfriend

[lesb8]

Hello everyone!

I need help !!
I've been with my boyfriend for about 2 years now and we live together.
This is the first time I have been with such a respectful, kind, involved man who loves me as much.
He is caring and very attentive. We hardly ever argue. I had a lot of relationships before him. It was very passionate relationships with a lot of shouting matches, attraction but above all with a lot of sex. I have always loved sex and I practiced it several times a day with my exes.
But in my current relationship I have almost no libido. I feel so guilty! My boyfriend wants to sleep with me but I have to force myself to please him. I'm so frustrated because I'm really good with him but I can't seem to be sexually attracted… Even during the beginning of the relationship, I found that the sex was not amazing as if our bodies were not made l for each other. The only time I feel desire is the day after I'm done, during the hangovers. I don't know what to do and why it's like this with him.... Do you have any advice ? Or opinions please?

If there's no spark, then there's no relationship. No matter how kind he is, if you don't fancy him, then why are you there?

If you never had desire for him, it's kinder to let him go. It might also be worth some therapy or exploration of your feelings to find out whether you are self sabotaging or replicating childhood attachment patterns by only being attracted to unstable, verbally abusive men

You've settled and gone for safe.
You can have good sex and passion without the all shouting ....

I'd let this one go, sorry,

This won't work. You don't fancy him no matter how well you get on. It will be doomed.

Even during the beginning of the relationship, I found that the sex was not amazing

Probably shouldn’t have carried on dating him never mind moving in together. Poor bloke, you’ve really misled him.

Do the right thing and break up with him so can find someone who really fancies him.