Would you bother going with me this date?

[Redberries85]

Hi - just wanted your advice. I haven’t dated for a while after coming out of LTR about a year ago. I am online but I haven’t really met up with the guys I’ve been talking to as no one has yet caught my eye
and I’m feeling quite apprehensive.

My friend passed my number onto a friend of hers and we liked each others photos, similar interests etc. (He told my friend that he was a bit worried that he felt physically unfit and not looking his best).

We messaged back and forth a few times and were planning to meet up at some point. He then would wait a month between sending me a message so I just left it.

I then get a message out the blue saying we should go for that drink and I just say no, it’s too late. He then asks again politely/apologising the next night and I cave, only because my friend says he really is a lovely guy but rubbish at messaging/ his job means he’s extremely busy, yadayada. Date was booked weeks in advance so we haven’t chatted. It’s now 4 days till date and I messaged saying where should we go etc. Trying to break the ice etc. He has seen my message sent yesterday and he’s been online and ignoring it again. Should I just forget this - or see if he messages. It’s the lack of effort that’s rubbish but my friend says he’ll be so different on date. Maybe this is all normal and I’m expecting too much.
WWYD?

He’s just messaged apologising as he was at a family event yesterday. And that he’ll book a great place he knows

Thanks all, was good to get perspective. My gut is saying don’t get into it with him as he’s too flakey and not what I deserve

What have you decided to do?

I’m just going to sit with it and see how I feel … it’s not a great start but a one off date might be fun

Urgh, I mean I wouldn't bother, however if you don't have anything on that night and are at a loose end then what's the harm? Just don't fall in love with him because he sounds flaky. And no, it's not normal to wait a month for a reply.

I wouldn;t go. He lacks any curiosity about you and any keenness to meet you. How half-hearted can you get? You want someone with a bit of energy and interest in you.

I'd go. He might be telling the truth about the family event. Or he might just be making that one up as an excuse for not getting back to you.

However, I'd definitely bring up this family event that meant he couldn't reply until today. You'd love to hear all about it i'm sure. At least then you'll know where you stand. And whether he has already started lying as an excuse for treating you badly (which he has even before meeting you, lets face it!).

Some guys are crap at answering messages; your friend might be right he might be an absolute diamond (in the rough) and you might just find him to be the most interesting; funny; lovely guy you’ve ever met; go in with an open mind you never know he might be just what you’ve been waiting for but he might be a complete cockwomble, if he is block him as soon as you can 😂😂

Thanks @Missingpop, my original post was months ago but I did end up going on the date. It went brilliantly and we got on really well. But he then became flakey straight away again and blatantly was just looking for sex. I should have just listened to my original instinct and I upped my boundaries big time. Quite happy being on my own for a while

No harm done though OP and lesson learnt for the future.