I don't really know where to begin with this one....I'll try to keep it brief (ish) and to the point.
So, I had friendship with a woman I met a my daughters nursery - her son was in her class.
We got along really well, introduced our partners and ended up socialising as two families for over 10 years. In that time we took lots of day trips and holidays away together.
She and her partner had been together for over 25 years but were never married. She said the odd thing to me from time to time that made me think her partner was a little controlling... she had no knowledge of the family finances and suggested on a few occasions that she wouldn't be able to 'get anyone else' if they split. Her partner often gave me a weird vibe.. he was shifty and I often felt he was wary of me.
Out if the blue one day my friend disclosed to me that her partner had 'gone missing' at Christmas- she called the police and they found him asleep in a local graveyard. He hadn't told her what he had been up to and she didn't press him for answers - weird!
Anyway, fast forward to mid last year - I had a 'suggested contact' pop up in my Twitter app. (I assume that as it was a person I had in my phone contact list, Twitter alerted me).
When I clicked the link it led to an account with a profile pic that was clearly my friends partner. When I looked closer at the bio I noted that he was referring to himself as 'a daddy' was verse, and seeking casual sex with men in our town. I was shocked to say the least. I then made the mistake of clicking the 'sent tweets' tab and there I saw some VERY graphic images of him naked, some were obviously taken in his workplace and others in public places. He had sent tweets to the accounts of very young males with these photos attached. It was clearly him as his watch and bracelet were recognisable.
I told my friend as I thought she had a right to know. Long story short, she confronted him, he denied it saying he had 'been hacked'. Interestingly the moment she confronted him the account and photos came down. Despite this, and her telling me she knows it is him, she messaged me saying they were going to work it out. Now that's her choice, but this is where it gets difficult...
My daughter (who is now 18) found out about it and disclosed to me in tears that he had always made her feel uncomfortable... he regularly winked at her, tickled her excessively when we were camping etc and even used to brush his fingers across her back and neck when he walked behind her at the dinner table. She said he'd done this since she first met him and used to hide from him. (So she would have only been aged 8 at that time).
I just don't know what to do or how to handle this. If I confront him he'll just deny it and think I'm being malicious due to the broken friendship.
Any advice is welcome.
TIA