Why are people so rude/mean!?

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Me (f), partner(m) and kids are away on holiday..at the evening entertainment quite late last night and we get chatting to this guy, he's funny albeit a bit strange..having a laugh and a joke with him and his family etc. I then go off to the dancefloor to dance with the children, come back over to overhear this man telling my partner "you're sound you are! Not sure about her though, you can do a million times better". He had no idea I was stood there, but his daughter saw me and I just walked off. She obviously said something to him.. He then came and followed me and said he was only having a laugh, he knew I was there (he definitely didn't) and that he says that kinda stuff to his sons about their girlfriends in jest too and it wasn't personal, all a joke etc. Why are some people just unnecessarily mean? We'd had a laugh with the man, he'd invited us to sit with his family, so I'm assuming he was meaning my partner could do better looks wise not personality. It's made me feel like absolute crap and just needed to get it off my chest cos I'm a sensitive sally! Thanks if you even made it this far 😂😂

He's a nutter, it's not you. He sounds like a pain in the arse who thinks he's a comedian and he seems exhausting.

What did your partner say? Both in response to him and to you afterwards?

That man is a twat.

It might help to think of him as a vile insignificant knobhead.

Charming.

Male bonding eh, get drunk, slag the woman off to take away the threat to another man. Nice for your partner.

Why ever he said it, your partner allowed him to cross boundaries regarding you, your partner does not have your back, he was either talking about you negatively or nodding in agreement at a woman hater.

Either way your p sounds like an ungentlemanly coward.
Get rid.

And I can guarantee he was no oil painting himself.

Wow - what a revolting little man.

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I hope your partner told him to fuck off!!

Stupid man. We have all had mean things said to us. Just ignore and avoid him for the rest of your break.

It's made me feel like absolute crap and just needed to get it off my chest cos I'm a sensitive sally!

Most of us are sensitive OP, & would feel put out by this idiots' remark.
I find a really useful antidote to feeling sensitive is to put the embarrassment & awkwardness right back where it belongs - with the idiot. A short sharp "oh do fuck off you absolute twat" could have served you well here :)

You did the right thing walking off . He sounded the type to start a fight

My partner wasn't involved in putting me down - infact I heard him several times telling the man and his wife how amazing I was and how lucky he is..even bored them with the story of how we met 😂. I was however annoyed at him because he didn't stick up for me in the moment but he said he didn't even hear him say it (I didn't tell him I'd heard or spoken to the man until we were on our way home as drama is not my thing). He was ready to go back in there and have a word with him and was gutted he was too drunk to really understand what was being said to him. I think if we see him tonight he will say something, but he won't start anything he's not like that. Just dont understand why someone would even say something like that! Id never dream of telling a woman I'd just met that she could do better than her partner (unless he was being an arse to her! But I was being nothing but lovely!) X

I wish I'd said something at the time instead of walking away - a fuck off definitely would've made me feel better! X

Why are you wasting your precious holiday with such shit company? Fuck the weirdo, go do your own thing and if you see them ignore them.

If that was my partner he would’ve conked him one ..next time tell your partner to be more assertive to rude comments about you and put the experience down to the dude just being drunk and stupid, What a dickhead

It’s a shitty thing to say. But if your Oh was going on about how amazing you are and how lucky he is to have you, was the man trying to make a joke in reference to being consistently told how amazing you are?

There was a thread here, recently, about a woman pulling another woman down for talking about how amazing her child was all the time.

They seemed nice until that point! We'd only been with them about an hour or so so not much time wasted thankfully. Just threw me off! Definitely won't be engaging with them this evening x

He's really angry at himself for not saying anything, said he doesn't even recall him saying that to him. My partner was really drunk so probably wasn't even listening tbf 😂 but when I told him about it on the way home he wanted to go back and say something..he was livid. X

I 100% believe he fancied you.

If you saw my face you'd retract that comment 😂😂