I really wish there was a pill I could take that would make me want to have sex

[lossoflibido]

Because atm I feel like I never ever want to have sex again. It has happened only about 5 ? times in the last 15 months, and then only because I felt guilty.

I think this is more common than you think. I was the same when I was on Depo Provera jabs. Am a bit now but that is through being knackered all the time.

It causes huge rows every now and then. When you do make the effort do you enjoy it? That is the key thing. Did you have a good sex life pre DC? If you can say yes to those 2 things then all is not lost, you just need to find out the cause and then you can work on things as a couple.

Well there are two (broadly speaking) probable causes of a lost libido.
The first one is biochemical. Some medications (including chemical contraceptives) can reduce your interest in sex, some other conditions or hormonal changes can do the same thing. Also, if you are stressed, or tired, or unwell generally, you won't feel in the mood for sex, so it probably wouldn't hurt to have a general check up.
THe second set of causes are if there are problems within your relationship (OK one of the causes here can be if you have a young baby or babies and are hugely sleep deprived). If your DP is unhelpful or unsupportive in general you can get to a stage where letting him have sex feels like just another household chore to be done. All these things are fixable, if both of you are prepared to work at it.

Very good post madamez

We are currently on the second set (small baby, I am very sleep deprived) DP is finding it very hard to understand. I had a lie in this morning and he practically jumped me when I got up and asked if we could have sex now i'd had some sleep .

I know how you feel LossOL.