Dating: do you always wait for the guy to ask?

[Lycheeeeee]

Im 5/6 dates in with new guy, typically he has always done the asking out and responded enthusiastically. He paid for and arranged the first few then I did, then for the last one we stayed at his. It was fun and we both expressed our interest in each other, he asked when I was next free and have arranged next week although not locked in a date. We have been messaging a lot since so I’m pretty sure something will be arranged, I’m just wondering when you start doing the asking as the woman?! I know everyone is different but in the early stages especially I like it when the guy does the asking as I feel then I can judge his interest. If he wants to see me again (which I think he does as he has insinuated) then I will make plans for this date and invite him to mine. But just wondering if I’m doing the right thing by not actively suggesting an evening next week?

Sorry, that should say I have responded enthusiastically

After 5 or 6 dates I'd just suggest an evening. If you like him just ask him.

Why do you get to sit back and judge his interest but he doesnt? I hate all this game playing and gender stereotyping. You're both adults, can you not just communicate openly? If you're interested, ask him.

You’ve been on six dates with this person and are reluctant to suggest meeting up? Is your plan to just never suggest a date ever, then? Leave the ball in his court, forevermore!

Have you had previous relationships? How have they generally worked?

You're 5 or 6 dates in.

You've stayed at his (presuming sex happened).

He hasn't ghosted you.

You're not getting the excuses/slow fade.

Just ask him.

I'm glad someone has said this, as i get stuck in a rut when involved with someone and so used to yes, what we are 'supposed to do'.

Go for it

It's 2022. Forget what society tells you 'nice girls do'. Focus on your relationship with this person. More than anything, remember you're creating patterns that will persist. Do you want to have a say in the future? Make your voice heard now

You can ask a guy out at any point but in your particular situation, I think it would be nice now for you to take control and arrange an acitivity. He's done a lot of the asking out.. guys these days take you out once and then play games with waiting for the woman to ask them out... this bloke you've seen like 6 times, why would you not want to ask him out? He obviously likes you.

Personally I prefer the lady to suggest, x first, then there are no mixed signals and shows the ladies happy with x event etc

I did it! He is staying at mine next week plus he has said let’s arrange a quick drink mid week as it’s too long to wait to see each other otherwise 😊 which I agree with! Thanks all, really happy

“I’m just wondering when you start doing the asking as the woman?“

I’ve got no problem arranging first or second date as a woman. Or any subsequent one. If I want to see them, I ask.

Granted, I see where you’re coming from with you want to feel that they’re interested and chasing a bit, and there’s been times I’ve missed out on that, but if I want something, I make it happen.

Good luck with next week 😁