Need your help

[BunnyLily]

So it’s come to breaking point in my relationship- we have 2 beautiful girls and I love my life. I love my husband… but he messages prostitutes and I found messages on 4 occasions asking for sex and When they are free. At the start of the relationship, when I was pregnant and after we came back of holiday recently when he’s admitted he went to meet her but didn’t go through with it, looking at the txt she just didn’t answer. He agreed to counselling but is 100% he has never met them, he said it’s just for a wank he gets off on messaging them. I’m heartbroken for the family we had. He said he will move out tomorrow but I’m sitting here sobbing. I love him. He spoke to the doctor about a referral but I’ve been on at him to chase it up but he hasn’t. We went to couple counselling and the counsellor said perhaps as I was feeling something was going on I just check his phone when he’s actually doing something dodgy. I’m so confused 😕 any advice ?

I’m sorry you’re going through this.

perhaps him moving out is for the best to get his head straight.

I think he may not have gone through with it yet….but he wants to. That’s enough for me. I can’t handle that.

If you feel you need to check his phone, trust is gone. If you KNOW he's talking to sex workers, trust is gone. It's hard but he has shown you who he is, you need to work out what's best for you from here.

I agree with Elieza, no one contacts a sex worker because they don't WANT to go through with it. He's definitely shown he wants to have sex outside the marriage. And to me, that betrayal of trust matters more than where a penis has been

Why are you confused?

He's married, his wife has found out he's been contacting prostitutes, and he's procrastinating on doing what she needs him to do to rectify her opinion of him. She doesn't trust him.

What would you advise her to do? Stay?

Sorry you are going through this but...

I found messages on 4 occasions asking for sex

Why did you not kick him out after the first occasion? Or the second?

He has learned that whatever he does has no consequences, so he continues to act like a disgusting little perv because he knows you won't leave.

He said he will move out tomorrow. Good! Make sure he leaves his keys and also move half of any savings you have jointly into your account.

Yes, it's upsetting but I don't understand why you are not furious with him. You have two daughters! Would you advise them to put up with this shit from any partners in future? Find your anger and kick the bastard out today. He doesn't get to dictate this now. You're in charge.

any advice ?

Stop flogging a dead horse?

Seriously. What on earth makes you feel this is a man worthy of your time, your love, your respect?