What’s the maximum distance you’d days someone?

[NorthAngel]

Hi,

What is the maximum distance between yourself and your date partner you’d be ok with - miles between you, I mean???

Is 45 minutes too much? Obviously, this would change if things got serious!

Depends on other factors really. How often you’d be expecting to see each other, do either or both have kids living with you etc

I’d prefer someone reasonably close because I work weekends so if they work regular days or shifts we may have to meet up in the evenings rather than having full days at weekends. And as I have teenage kids I’m fine being out of the house for the evening but probably wouldn’t sleep over or have him here for a few months at least.

So I’d say 45 mins max for me, but preferably 30 mins or less, so I can pop over for dinner and a shag and then come home!

I have two teens but one is 18 and lives with his dad mainly (plus he has a job). Youngest is 14 but can go to her dad’s whenever.
45 mins is my max. Just wondered what others thought.

When I met my (now) DH I was about to move three hours away ... we had a couple of dates before I moved. I assumed it would just fizzle out but we dated long distance (before email & mobile phones ) and got married 18 months later (together 34 years now !).

I live in a London so am pretty realistic that ten miles can sometimes take two hours to travel in heavy traffic or if the tube route between two places isn’t linear. I don’t think anything of travelling 90 minutes or so to get anywhere here. A 45 minutes cut off would really limit a lot of things.

Ahhhh, that’s lovely 🥰

That’s a good point!

Londoner here. When I was single and dating, my rule was ‘nobody outside zones 1-2’. It served me well.

Hmm not far as I don’t drive, maybe half hour /45 mins

I did a 4 hour flight LDR for 4.5 years 🤣 weirdly that seemed easier than the 1hr 15min drive that I did briefly whilst OLD. If I was single now I don't think I'd like to drive more than half an hour or so

I live rurally - 45 mins is considered close! I drove an hour today each way just for a coffee with a friend. I'd say any more than 1h 20 would start limiting how often you could see each other in evenings etc?

I don’t really care, so long as he is happy to travel to me.

In London, I pretty much stuck to the same borough and most definitely no tube switching.

I was in a 5 year relationship with a man who was 1.5 hours drive away (or longer on the train) but we met when I lived in London and he lived in Copenhagen (we met in Copenhagen) so 1.5 hours seemed pretty good (and we also had a couple of 6 month periods where he was back in Copenhagen, and then Manchester).

I was also with someone who lived 4.5 hours drive away. I lived in Paris and he lived in Lyon (we met in Paris). I moved to Kent (study) and he moved to Manchester (study). Then he was in Norway while I was in NW England (he's Norwegian). We never lived near each other but we had/have a strong relationship and although no longer together, we're still friends 20 years later. It wasn't the distance that split us up.