OH always the same or different?

[Timeforanautumnal]

I'm not really sure how to explain this but just wanted to know if anyone identifies. Basically, is your other half 'different' after they've been somewhere else, say at work?
My OH is self employed and seems to get 'better' the longer he's with me. When it's just the two of us, I feel bonded, like a partnership, and he says things and does things which indicate he's very happy to be with me.
Sometimes, when he's been at work, he will be like a different person, though.
I can't really explain it, but for example he'll mimic me in a mildly 'bad' way, like he's irritated by me. Yet, the longer time he spends with me, the more loving he gets, so I don't think he can be irritated by me?

Sounds like he has negative influences outside the home.

He does seem to be fairly easily influenced. Several years ago I could always tell when he had visited an elderly male relative of his because he would come home being very loving and appreciative after the visit. He told me a couple of things the relative had said to him about me which were very nice compliments.

Is he stressed when he comes home from work?

I do understand what you mean but no, my DH isn’t like that.

I would be worried that he’s so easily influenced to be negative about and around you. I know when I’m with friends or family, I’m very often reminded how lucky I am to have him, especially when other people are having a difficult time in their relationships. I’ll come home and make a fuss of him, just so he knows that I don’t take him for granted. But there’s no way anyone could influence me to be negative about him because I’m sure of my feelings towards him.

It could be work stress I suppose but it's not the 'kick the cat' sort of stress. It's like he temporarily sees me in a different light until we're back in our routine. It's difficult to put into words.

Could it he that there are stressors he faces at work etc that make him a bit short tempered and being with you brings him peace?

This reminds me of a boyfriend years and years ago. He'd come home from work and be dropping "fuck"s into casual, friendly conversation all over - like" Yes love, let's go to the fucking pub, we'll take my fucking car, have a few fucking beers then fuck off to your fucking house and have some fucking food." Then he'd start coming out with sexist shite, commenting on women's bodies, etc. He was working with a bunch of foul mouthed builders who these days would have been thrown off the job by any company signed up to the Considerate Constructors thing.

My boyfriend was only 17 though...