Help - I'm fading

[Crazyindiechick]

My DH has just told me I'm on probation and a nightmare to live with.

Tell him to fuck off.

This.

Yep, I'm with the 'tell him to fuck of f' crew as well

Presumably he told you why? Is there any truth in it?
The term 'on probation' is bad, but telling someone they have one last chance to change certain behaviour might be reasonable if the behaviour needs changing.
What do you think about your behaviour in the relationship?

say "jail sounds better"

Did he elaborate or was this completely out of the blue? I think context is key before you tell him to fuck off.

Please tell me this is lighthearted and it's because you forgot to turn the lights off or the fancy coffee in the shopping

If it's not tell him to get to fuck and then fuck off further

He's a patronising prat. End it now and save him the bother of thinking about it.

Are you safe, is he physically abusive?

If he hates living with you he can leave can't he.

Tell him you don't take to kindly to threats.
Then tell him to FUCK OFF!!!

Tell him he'd clearly be far happier living alone then and get the hell out of there.

Are you safe?

Need more context as to why he said something like that. Have you been a nightmare? If its just complaining or your feeling down or depressed he can go do one. But if you have abusive or something like that then yes I dont blame him even if it is bad choice of wording.

I've just finished a masters degree which I started during lockdown. I ended up doing a lot of work as well. I'm freelance so I took on loads. It's a long story but my DH did have addiction issues and every six months or so he gets blazing drunk now; for a few days. It's better than a few years ago when it was every few weeks and we've had the police round because he was found staggering around.
We have 2 DC - 9 and 13. His parents helped us buy a house and he's held down quite a well paid job the last few years.
But I have got moaney because he does loads of DIY but doesn't clean up.
He thinks housework is a hobby and laughed at me when I bought an air drier.

I'm rambling a bit as I feel too emotional to write everything down properly

I'm feeling burnt out...

I'd be looking to LTB personally

He does loads of DIY? And you still moan at him?

If he makes life harder, more frustrating, then I’d be looking at my options.
You say he did have addiction issues, but the truth is that he still has them.

You read all that and that's your take on it. Honestly!

No wonder you are burnt out. I'd stop trying to put out the fire and concentrate on leaving

Just leave him. He's not good for you or the kids.

Then he is the nightmare OP, not you.
He didn't 'use to have addiction issues he still does.
Addicts very often try to manipulate their partners into thinking they're the problem as an excuse for their own behaviour.
The fact hes doing this suggests he is far away from the place he needs to be to change.
If I were you I'd use this crisis point and his ultimatum as my cue to leave. I think that's what you'll end up doing anyway for your DCs sake, so rip the plaster off and do it now. Every day you don't is a day you waste.

I am afraid to say he is undoubtedly a cunt.

Ask for the terms and conditions of the probation period to see if you are willing to accept them.

Do you want to live like this for the rest of your life?
He sounds like an absolute pain in the arse. And that's being polite.