Namechanged! Am early 50's and divorced. Recently I reconnected with an old friend from my hometown - he was in the same friendship circle as me in our late teens and early twenties. We always got on brilliantly and often friends would tease us about fancying each other. It felt a bit 'sparky' but I always put it down to us just getting on so well. We were always single at different times and nothing ever happened between us.
We eventually lost touch. I moved abroad and lived in a different country for years. He's divorced too. It's been lovely catching up again - we've been out for dinner a few times and it feels like there might be a glimmer of something between us - he's being pretty flirtatious and 'touchy' (in a nice way!)....
HOWEVER, thirty years (!) ago, I had a one night stand with his older brother. 😖My friend knew about this at the time, all a bit of a laugh, we were young...and it came up briefly in conversation the other night, so it's not like he's forgotten this happened! My question is - does this put me squarely in the friend zone?! Surely the fact of this, even though it was so long ago, feels a bit icky to him?