I though I'd try online dating again!
Started chatting with someone that grew up in the same town as me and we eventually found out we knew some of the same people. Anyway, we were chatting for about a week, good conversation. He did appear to tak quite a bit but I put it down to nerves. We then arranged date 1, a coffee. Went well. It was only an hour but conversation flowed, mainly about growing up in the same town. Arranged date 2, a drink. Again, went well. He did talk alot again but I assumed he was still quite nervous. We arranged another date to watch a film at his and have a few drinks and he would get me a taxi home. He said he would pick me up, go for food and then watch a film. It felt comfortable as the more we spoke, it turned out his sister in law was one of my best friends at school. He went to school with my brother and they have been out for a pint a few times. Or dcs go to the same school. Anyway, all arranged. However, in between, last minute arranged another date as we were both free. He handed me some flowers, which I thought was a nice thing to do. He was talking about the following date that we had arranged and he was looking forward to it and he'd book a table, make something nice for dessert, get the wine in. This time we had a couple of drinks and again, he talked alot. In a space of a couple of hours, he spoke about his 'bad boy' days. I understand we all have a past. Would this put you off moving forward? He liked his cars, crashed a couple of them, walked home drunk and got knocked over, got into fights, told me he stamped on one guy. Alot about his mum. She tried to run his sister in law over about 20 years ago. Over another man involved. He joked and said, stay on the pavement when you meet my mum. I felt myself drifting, thinking this isn't a conversation I want to have. I swayed it a few times. He said, I'm not like that anymore, I'm making myself look bad. Since, he married, had 2 dcs and appeared to do quite well for himself. I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable now about the next date. Is this a red flag? I know people change, grow up but it wasn't nice to listen to.
Then....at the end of the date, he went in for a kiss, I was ok about it but there was a bit of an odour afterwards! A bit of a bad taste/smell, I don't know but that wasn't too nice either.
Am I judging too quickly?