Is this a red flag?

[Littleschlee]

Guy I’m seeing has strong opinions on things which generally I quite like (seems assertive, honest etc). One thing that I do find weird (and I’m not sure if it’s just sense of humour as we are both quite sarcastic) is that sometimes he will say things are boring eg a new TV series or an episode of something. So we discussed a series we both liked and our fave episodes, we agreed on one and then discussed another which I liked - he said he found it a bit annoying and boring plot line.

is this dismissive or am I overthinking?

Less a red flag and more an incompatibility issue. Although, while I might well think something is boring that a friend or DH likes, I wouldn't say it as a definitive. eg I'd say something like, "oh, interesting you liked that one. I found that episode a bit boring myself because it was so focused on the dialogue. But I loved this other episode where x , y, z"

You're picking up on what you view as a perceived criticism and that's the red flag you're asking about. I would say most likely that's your perception but it's still okay not to like it. But if it's part of a bigger pattern eg, "no, that movie is boring, we're going to watch Back to the Future" as he grabs the remote, that's different.

Hmm…seems so trivial but it’s something I wish I’d picked up on in the beginning of a significant relationship. It ended up with him subtly criticising pretty much anything I liked as a means of making me feel stupid and inferior.

Yep.

I admired the fact DH was forthright and honest at the beginning. Well, that's how I perceived it. We are both opinionated people, but I can disagree without making him fell crap. He on the other hand is blunt, judgemental and ill considered at times, like a grumpy old man. It's a work in progress to make him chill a bit. Not everything requires black or white thinking or even a strong opinion. At times he has made me feel a bit crushed, but now it either is like water off a ducks arse or if I'm in the mood I tackle his attitude not his opinion.

It's hard work. Why bother if you already have this insight and a niggle with it. Its his personality,......easier to leave now than later.

Or rather, as a means to elevate his fragile ego…whichever way you want to look at it. He got a buzz out of throwing cold water on my enthusiasm…it made him feel big.

and clever.

I am just imagining if I were at work and someone said they liked something I find boring. I am know for being pretty blunt, but even I would say something like ‘it’s not my kind of thing’, because saying it’s it’s boring would be rude!

I like a guy with an opinion but not to be opinionated, if that makes sense. I like people who have opinions and are happy to share them but when they are too dismissive of others, that's when it turns me off.
I think it also matters how well you know someone, how comfortable you are with them. Being able to 'read the room' is important. If he can't do that, you may have more issues going forward.

If someone described lots of things as boring I'd think they were boring haha!

But a few things? Just an opinion and that's fine 😄

I don’t get why he finds something you like boring would be a red flag ?
my boyfriend likes horse racing , I find it boring so I tell him. That’s an opinion not a red a flag.
if you are watching something and he comes in turns it off that’s a red flag .. that’s control. If he’s just telling you he finds it boring that’s most definitely not a red flag.

It might be…. Or it could be a red flag if someone hides when they don’t like something and just agrees with you….

Jeep staying vigilant but this one doesn’t seem like a red flag.