So Fed Up of Life

[hereigoagainonmeown]

Usually when I feel fed up I can see an end to my problems or work out a solution. I can't at the moment. I suppose I just want to vent.

Work has been really busy and I have been working long hours to keep up. On top of this I have an elderly parent to sort out. I don't do the care but there is always something to sort out.

I've been trying to take it one day at a time but there's been a set back with his care and it's set off my anxiety.

I wonder how I got into this awful life.

I am exhausted on Saturdays so don't want to go out and meet people.

I don't have any luck with relationships. I've tried everything - online dating, meet ups etc. I was ill last week with flu and I didn't have a single person to help me with anything except cover at work.

Hi op - so sorry you’re feeling like this. You’re exhausted and overwhelmed. Can you see an end in sight to the work problems? Is this a temporary situation, do you think?
I really really understand that feeling of wondering how it all came to this. I’ve been awake half the night feeling the same way. Vent away, get it all off your chest. Sometimes once you do that the way to go becomes clearer.

Does it help to know that sometimes there are no good solutions? You need to give yourself permission to stop searching for the 'answer'. Easier said than done I know, I am a problem solver and it felt like running into a wall to realise some things can't be fixed. But also that everything is temporary, things will change, it is just not necessarily in your control for when that will be. Is it possible to focus on the things you can change and learn to live with the things you can't? Thinking of taking my own advice here...

Can you build a bit of time for yourself into each day? Even if it's a walk and coffee/podcast en-route somewhere or picking up a bunch of flowers/ treating yourself to a cream bun etc? Small changes so you have things to look forward to.

Similar here. My days are filled with compulsory activities - work, cooking dinner for family, sort out uniforms etc, then hospital visiting of elderly df who needs help feeding himself every night. Dm won't go in the evenings because she doesn't like getting home in the dark. He's been in hospital since mid August.