I Can’t Forget Him

[Blossom4538]

Old married here. Unfortunately, I’ve fallen for someone else who I have to see regularly and they have recently started dating someone. I feel so, so sad every day and I feel bloody ridiculous! He’s on my mind most of the time.

I think there has been signs of chemistry between us in the past, but nothing has ever happened.

My H is a lovely man, I feel so horrible and it has completely caught me off guard and thrown me. I’ve had feelings for around 10 months now.

You don't have to forget him, just reframe the way you think about him. Every time you find your thoughts drifting in that direction, give yourself a good talking to about why it can't and won't happen, the aspects of his personality that you would actually find quite annoying if you had to live with him full time, and then find a distraction to take your mind off him. It will take a while, but it can be done.

Sounds like limerence. See the livingwithlimerence website and community.

Same here, apart from not married. We had a weekend together, and he's awesome. But he didn't want a distance relationship, so it hurts that he's off to a more different country to see someone else this weekend. Can't just block him because we work fogether, though not same office. I know it will pass in time, but not there yet.