Just musing really. My dh never takes initiative to contact or see anyone in his family. I see my sister and mum.and by default he does too as he is there at the same time.
Dh has never been close to anyone in his family and decades later after thinking it was them, I can see its him. He makes zero effort.
His dad and step mum invite him away abroad every year and pay for him to meet up in Europe. They are all big drinkers and get pissed up. They did pay for me to go years ago, but dh told me after the event he didn't invite me because I needed to look after the kids.
But now as time has passed I haven't seen his dad for over five years. I see his mum as SHE makes the effort.
I'm wondering what do I do if he dad gets ill? Do I trot myself on duty? I don't know him anymore. Its been so long of no contact, I would feel like a spare part now around them. Like families that just see each other for wedding and funerals. Our youngest is 8 and doesn't know fil, I keep asking dh to take her to see him but he doesn't.
Families are weird. Just thinking what would happen if fil got ill or God forbid died. I'd be like Maris in Frasier that everyone knows exists but never sees.