My hubby has become irritating and selfish. Its only small things but I'm finding it so annoying. For example:
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I asked him to pick some chips up on his way home to go with the pie I've made, as we were in a rush out that evening. He comes home and says I've got us chilli cheese bites for us too. Oh nice I think, there's 4 cheese bites, I have one and go to get another but theres just an empty bag there. I said I thought there was two each, I ate it he said. So he's had 3 and I've just had 1. I told him I think that selfish, and when I buy something for us I always share it equally. He got annoyed and couldn't see what was wrong with it and made a comment that he's only had breakfast all day, well so have I, but I still would have better manners than that.
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he will go in the cupboard and stuff his face with junk, and I mean he will have almost a whole pack of biscuits followed by two Mars bars, Crisps and a kit kat all in one go. He will make a point of eating it all in front of me making sure I hear and see every mouthful that he takes. I find this so irritating and a big turn off. Then he will make a comment that he's eating junk now because I never made him a box for work. He tries to make it sound like it's my fault. Which really winds me up as he is a grown man, both of us work full time. Why would he expect me to make his food box for work as though its his right and privilege to have it made for him.
3). He will not put anything in the bin, and back where he got it from. He will pull rubbish and all sorts out of his pocket and leave it on the worktop. He will use the last tea bag and leave the box there. Or have the last of the cereal and put the box back in the cupboard or leave it on the worktop. I have told him I'm not his servant and won't be coming behind him putting things in the bin for him any longer. I've stopped putting his empty deodorant cans in the bin and now the vanity unit has 5 empty cans of his deodorant on it. It's so embarrassing when people come around or our childs friends come around and just makes me feel as, if I want a tidy house I have to do all the work myself, constantly going behind him cleaning his mess up. I'm starting to realise I've done this too long now and feel exhausted and emotionally drained. He's so stubborn, and I've actually broke down crying asking why he enjoys leaving me do all the housework and struggling, why he can't just help out. He doesn't give an answer, just says he's got to fly his drone or feed his bird.
I'm at my whits end and really starting to doubt its acceptable but feel so worn out now that I don't think I have the energy to do anything about it.
His friend has seen me struggle up scaffold to paint the house or doing the renovation work on my own, whilst he goes out to fly his bird. And even he has turned to him in front of me, firmly telling him he should be helping too with the house too. But my husband just replied life's too short, you've got to enjoy it whilst you're here. The problem is he's enjoying it at the expense of my happiness. I just feel so sad and stuck.
Even our child, turned to me and said Mum, don't you get fed up of him. She had asked him if he would take her to club ( I normally take her as its never convenient for him) as I was unwell. Dizziness and sickness due to medication I'm on. He said no, although he did afterwards. But I'm worried it's affecting her too.
Don't know what advice I'm after, I guess some reassurance that his behaviour described is selfish and unacceptable.