My best friend since childhood has been in an emotionally and financially abusive relationship for a decade. She's always had depression and had highs and lows, but she was low when she met him and moved him in straight away. Things were okay with them for the first 2 or 3 years but then he got fired and has declined working ever since which has put her tens of thousands in debt. They have rent debt, utility debt, you name it. He will always have an excuse for why he can't work, and she got to a place where she stopped asking because it was met with abusive language. She decided to leave him 5 years ago, they don't have children together or any pets but everything else is joint, the house, bills, debts, and she doesn't want to leave him with nothing, and she doesn't know how she would only pay for her debts and not his half. She doesn't want to take anti depressants as she doesn't react well to them, I have suggested therapy but she's worried about what he will say or that he will find out. I can see that she's a shell of the woman she once was, and I have offered her my spare bedroom, I have offered to find and book a therapist, I can help her move her things out of the house in less than a day. I don't know what else to do to help.