Someone else’s name

[Babe0807]

My partner pulled my arm over him in bed last week and told me he’d missed me, but mine wasn’t the name he used. He can’t work out why I’m gutted he’s called me something else in his sleep! Am I wrong to be upset?

Yikes.

anything else not right? Be honest with yourself….

Was it a different name, like calling you Sarah instead of Rachel, or was it a different/new pet name?

Was he actually asleep or were you both awake and lying in bed? I have dreams about all sorts of randoms, I’m hoping I don’t talk in my sleep, but don’t mean anything. Still very happy with Dh.

I've done this a few times, and have called my DP by my exH name I asked my counsellor about it because it really upset me (although DP laughed it off), and I really didn't mean to do it. She explained that the brain kind of stores groups of people in the same category together. So for example, partners in one place, children in another, and sometimes, when you're feeling emotional, stressed, tired etc, your brain has a misstep and the wrong name can just pop out. A bit like you might call a child or a pet by the wrong name if you're feeling overwhelmed or something.

I certainly didn't do it because I have feelings for my ex, and I hadn't been thinking about him when it happened, so I wouldn't jump to that conclusion necessarily.

Was the name he used significant in some way? I can understand using an exes name, both dh and I have used our exes names by accident, at least in the early days, it is meaningless. If I it was just a random name I'd question that further.

Don’t be offended it happens. Tell him not to do it again

Was it the name of an ex or some woman he harbours a secret crush on? If not I'd forget it.

I used my ex's name recently mid sex. God it was so cringe. And I can say hand on heart he was the furthest thing from my mind. I have no love or lust for ex- at all. I just figured it was like muscle memory. It really freaked me out though. But anyway it does show that your dp doing it might mean nothing (like it did for me) though I understand why you're upset.

Was he dreaming?

DD8 confused our DDog for a penguin last week in her sleep so 🤔

I had a vivid dream once that I was having an affair with the ugly, sexist man who runs my work canteen. Wouldn't be surprised if I shouted out his name. In my waking life I'd rather detach from my lower quarters than have anything to do with him. Dreams are weird.

My husband once told me to ring my mum, and don't forget the hamster! We did not have a hamster.

Recently he sat up in bed, poked my stomach multiple times and repeatedly muttered something about my 'tummy'.

He had no recollection of either event when he woke later on.

Next door's huge, fluffy ginger cat once appeared very early one morning in my kitchen doorway and for a nanosecond, I thought it was a lion.