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Getting my ducks in a row

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AWayOut · 17/10/2022 00:01

Name changed as I’m a regular poster and don’t want this one linked incase I’m identifiable in any of them.

My marriage isn’t working, and I want out, but I want to be sensible about it and get myself in the best possible situation.

We’ve been married two years
We rent a house from the local authority. I am the tenant, so I don’t think there’s any issue in terms of it being him having to leave and me being able to stay.

We get housing benefit which he would need removed from, but I’m confident that my entitlement wouldn’t make my rent unaffordable.

i get income based ESA and PIP due to a health condition

H Gets contribution based ESA and PIP due to a similar condition. Some of my ESA is deducted to compensate for him receiving ESA so I think although the household would lose his income mine would revert to how it was before I met him, and I would be okay. I’m going to do a benefit calculator though to be sure.

My ESA and PIP goes in to my own bank account
All of my personal bills and all the household bills come out of my account.

Hs ESA/PIP gets paid in to a joint account, and his personal bills (phone etc) come out of that joint account, so I would just need to remove myself from that account.

We don’t have any joint debt

i purchased all the large items in the house, so he shouldn’t be able to demand anything.

We have a dog and cat, both of which are registered/insured in my name and would be staying here with me.

We don’t have DC

It all just seems like it would be so simple, too simple.
What am I missing?

OP posts:
jsku · 17/10/2022 02:28

It’s a short marriage - so untangling it isn’t going to be difficult. And there are no children - so just get online and file.

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