Online dating help

[MidnightSky75]

Newbie here bear with me! Joined online dating 2 months ago, been chatting for a month to a guy 12 yrs younger (I'm 46)we msg every day multipletimes hes sent a pic of him and his little boy and weve facetimed, works as a trucker so sleeps in truck 5 nights, only managed to get a date organised for last week due to both our work commitments, just meeting for a coffee during the day but he overslept and missed it! Obviously apologised definitely wants to still meet etc do I give him another chance or tell him where to go?

Personally, I wouldn't. It could be a genuine mistake but if he was that interested he would have set an alarm! And a truck driver? Might have a different woman in each town

If you're looking for a ltr where you'd end up living together or spending multiple nights a week together, a truck driver is really not compatible with that. He's already shown he's not that motivated.

If you're looking for something fun and casual, then yeah I'd give him another chance, but don't waste loads of time speaking to him in between. And be setting up dates with other people too.

This whole set up sounds messy op.

The whole chattibb daily and face timing and photos of his kid ect...before you've even met? Bit full on.

Best rule of thumb i find is - 2 conversations, 3 max, the arrange a date. If you haven't met them within 14 days of the first convo, call it a day as they are wasting your time.

Yes sometimes cancellations happen but to me, the other stuff is a bigger red flag. There's no need to chat everyday with someone you've never met, for a whole month! Nor should they be showing you their kids photos.

I'd block him and keep looking. I don't believe he overslept and missed your lunchtime date after you'd been planning it for a month. Also, what kind of father sends a picture of their child to a stranger they've never met? Something's not right.

Throw this one back OP. Lots of red flags already.

Yeah they pic with the kid threw me!esp as kid was only 7! We'd only arranged date the week before.thanks for your opinions do I call him out for just wasting my time or just block?

If you've definitely decided not to take it any further, just a polite 'I don't think this is going to work'. No need to 'call him out' or give him an opportunity to make excuses or justify his not turning up.

The date was supposed to be on Fri so I did say to him if he still wanted a date to set an alarm next time 😆 we've spoke as normal since then apart from today I've sent 1 msg but he's not read it yet poss still driving.thats the thing I've not decided what I'm going to do so really appreciate everyone's opinions x

If you're looking for a committed relationship, this isn't the guy. If you're looking to be avaliable whenever a guy's in town, then this is him. He's not reliable and he's definitely not relationship material.

I think uf you're having to 'remind' a full grown person to set a an alarm to contact you, he's not someone you should boyfriend with.

Also, don't date someone who you find yourself acting like 'mum' to. He's an adult. If ge can't manage his own time it's hus problem. And if he can't make time for you, it's not your job to chase him for attention.

No need to call him out. Just tell him upon reconsideration, it doesn't seem you two are suited. Then unmatch.

*bother not boyfriend