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No other explanation...

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 15:48

...is there?

DP had a tiny strip from a red nail foil stuck to his chest under his clothes last night. I do not wear foils.

Afaics there is only one conclusion to be drawn from this. I do need to be sure as if I ask him straight out he will deny it.

In four years I have never suspected him of infidelity but he's been distant since I went back to work after mat leave a few months ago.

Tell me it is what I think it is, as I will likely leave him over it. 😞

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Teeah · 16/10/2022 15:49

How do you know it's from a nail?

FreudayNight · 16/10/2022 15:49

I don’t know what a nail foil is, are they super distinctive?

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 16/10/2022 15:54

Could it not have been something else? I think it's a big conclusion to draw without any other info!

Cheminaufaules · 16/10/2022 15:55

There is a very high probability that if he has been cheating he will deny it, so you won't benefit from asking him anyway. Is there anything else you could check?

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 15:57

That's the thing I can't think of anything else it would be from, it's so thin. It's the foil things you can stick on over your nails instead of varnish. The back is still sticky.

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User0610134057 · 16/10/2022 16:00

Could it not be a bit of kitkat wrapper or the red equivalent?

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 16:00

No much, much thinner than that. Very delicate.

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User0610134057 · 16/10/2022 16:01

has he been doing craft with the kids?

thing is though… the fact your mind is going straight to that conclusion and you’re not just asking him shows that things are not in a good way 😞

you could confront him
you could bide your time, get your ducks in a row and wait for/seek out more evidence

Vapeyvapevape · 16/10/2022 16:03

Do you mean something like this

No other explanation...
Cheminaufaules · 16/10/2022 16:03

The advice to confront is always bad advice. You honestly expect a person to say 'hands up, I cheated'?? That's not going to happen because a cheat is not a naturally honest person!

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 16:09

Those look more like gel @Vapeyvapevape are they foil? That is the sort of look you can get yes.

@User0610134057 you may be right. I think I could be looking for an excuse. Maybe I should give it a few weeks and see how things pan out. I'm really under the weather and a bit grumpy atm if I'm being honest.

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Quveas · 16/10/2022 16:12

My car was covered with sand the other day. I have not been near the Sahara for six years.

There are a million possible explanations, but you want to pack up and leave over one based on a tiny sliver of something that you can't positively identify or match to any scenario? If your relationship is worth so little, then perhaps you are right to leave, but be honest about this - you are looking for an excuse and any excuse will do.

Teeah · 16/10/2022 16:14

It could be part of a wrapper or just a bit of random debris from somewhere. I don't know any adults who wear foil on their nails!

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 16:17

Ok I can see from these replies I am overreacting a little bit. Thank you that's what I needed to know 💛

I will probably take a little time to recover from this horrid flu like thing I've got and see where we are in a couple of weeks.

If there is someone else there will be other signs and I can see I'm not really being fair.

Thank you

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TinyKittenPaw · 16/10/2022 16:19

Do you have a pic of the foil? I’d say if you are sure it was foil I can’t think of any explanation other than the one you are thinking of.

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 16:27

Sorry, wish I'd thought of that @TinyKittenPaw. Alas I screwed it up this morning and threw it in the bin 😞

I'll remember it in future though, if any other clues come along.

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Georgeskitchen · 16/10/2022 16:54

My advice is not to jump in all guns blazing but do a little more detective work first . Keep an eye on his behaviour. Does he never leave his phone unattended? Is he working later and later? Is he showering more often, using more aftershave?

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 16/10/2022 16:56

In fairness, I can't think of a single friend who has foil on her nails so it seems a bit obscure to me!!

Vapeyvapevape · 16/10/2022 16:57

What shape was it ?

LoekMa · 16/10/2022 17:03

In fairness, I can't think of a single friend who has foil on her nails so it seems a bit obscure to me!!

agree. Sounds like OP has a specific woman in mind and is looking for confirmation?

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 17:07

Georgeskitchen · 16/10/2022 16:54

My advice is not to jump in all guns blazing but do a little more detective work first . Keep an eye on his behaviour. Does he never leave his phone unattended? Is he working later and later? Is he showering more often, using more aftershave?

Good advice. Will keep an eye on those things.

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 17:08

No specific woman @LoekMa I do know several girls much younger than me who wear them though.

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AutumnLea · 16/10/2022 17:09

@Vapeyvapevape not a whole one just as if a strip had torn off from base to tip if that makes sense

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