When I had my dc I was treated horrendously by my DM - she refused to visit me in hospital. Begrudgingly had older dc while dh visited me (but my dsis lost her shit and said she didn’t want the dc there for too long as she didn’t want to help me) Refused to help me after. Refused to come to see baby unless my dh collected her and dropped her home at very specific times even though she only lives 5 mins away.
Never asked how I was no texts calls nothing. Yet kept posting on SM all the help she was giving dsis with DN and all their outings together - I was never invited 😞
Growing up I was emotionally abused and dsis was the golden child. Dsis has just had her third and I’ve blocked everyone on everything as I know I’ll be pestered about visiting or helping as I was when she had her other two. It’s like I’m only here when it benefits them so this time I’ve decided that’s it. Why do I feel bad though doing this for myself !!!!! I know it’s the right thing but why do I have these feelings? I feel guilty when I shouldn’t and I feel a sense of loss - for people who really don’t care about me !!! I know they don’t so how do I get my mind to realise and stop making me feel this way I keep thinking ‘maybe if I do help out etc they’ll realise they do like and need me ‘ but i know it’s not true I think I just want it to be true