Should I give up for good?

[Needtotalk94]

Hey guys!

Hope everyone is doing okay! Just seeking some advice if anyone can help. I've been in a relationship for almost 7 years. Obviously it has not been the easiest as like any relationship. Today my partner turned around to me and mentioned a girl asked him on a date where he met filling up his car and sparked up a convo when he was filling up. He said yes to her and cant understand why I'm angry? I asked did he mention he has a girlfriend or did she ask is he in a relationship and he said no. I asked could he see what he is doing wrong and how he's upsetting me and of course he said no.

He mentions he's been miserable and how I never try. In my opinion, I try the hardest I can each and everyday and its obviously hard to stay motivated when you don/t see the same being reciprocated for you.

My heart is in tatters because I cant believe he is going to throw away 7 years for someone he has barely spoken to? I tried to explain to him from my point of view, but Im supposedly being selfish. We have had problems in the past were he says he's not happy, but we always try and work things out.

I literally don't know where I stand right now. I've removed him from social media and muted him from messaging to give myself time to breath. I feel so alone and no where to turn to. I've told him if he goes ahead with this and if it doesn't work out don't expect me to be waiting for him.

My heart hurts

Honestly & i mean HONESTLY, life is too damn short to stay with someone like that. I know it's incredibly hard but it sounds like he has absolutely no respect for you.

The fact he told you too!! Makes you wonder the things he isn't telling you.

Your partner should never be making any girl feel special and wanted other than you! Get RID. Spend your life with someone who wouldn't even think to respond, spend your life with someone who wouldn't of even made eye contact to begin with!

Everyone is deserving of love.

Wow. What a piece of shir.

Run.

couldn't agree more!

So he’s saying he has unilaterally changed the relationship to non-exclusive? And expects you to be okay with his dating other women? Would he accept you seeing other men?

Even if he doesn’t follow through with the date, he was a faithless, disloyal horror for presenting himself as single, accepting the date, and goading you about it.

Two years ago you wrote that he regularly gives you the silent treatment, which is emotional abuse.

@Needtotalk94, he doesn’t care about you at all and enjoys upsetting you. You’d be mad to stick with this narcissistic, contemptuous Loser. Keep him blocked unless you want a miserable future.

You have just been dumped OP. I had a BF sitting next to me and commenting one the type of girl that would be their next girlfriend.😡Not my finest hour. There is nothing there, move on.

Why don't you know where you stand?

Do you think you'll just go back (your) normal - a cycle of 'working it out'/ his unhappiness - if he doesn't go on this date? With you trying harder and harder and harder to keep him 'happy'?

From what you've said, he has dumped you.

Obviously, he'd be happy to torment you with a non-exclusive relationship if you were prepared to tolerate that until he settled with someone else.

Keep him blocked.
Do not torment yourself by looking at his social media.
Move on.
Find someone who respects you.

So, you’re single now - thank fuck for that. Don’t ever look back.

Well done on blocking him and giving yourself some space.

Don't waste your breath explaining.

He knows perfectly well what he's doing is wrong.

Any interaction with him is going to hurt you, weaken you and confuse you.

Have you got friends and family you can spend time with in the next few days?

I don't think the gor is at fault here at all. His answer should have been polite and informed her he was in a relationship. Was should now definitely be the operative tense. He does nog respect u. Respect yourself by getting rid of him once and for all. Make a single one for yourself where you please yourself. If that means you have to change your living accommodation then still do it. When you feel more like you used to be look again and don't settle for someone who does not deserve someone decent. On another note I would look at why the relationship was unsettled. Is there anything you know that next time you woukd like to approach differently or that would be a no no? Learn from.this and don't repeat it. Best wishes

He basically told you he was saying other people. He, potentially, is already doing.

This isn’t a relationship you should be in. ‘Unsettled’ is an odd way to put it, are you willing to explain more?

He has made clear, he isn’t exclusive with you. It’s over. I am so sorry.