Frustrated frustrated frustrated with my partner

[Kaitkyn76]

Recently I am just tired.....
Been with my partner nearly 6 years..
Little things have been annoying me his way of rude comments in wrong situations ..he thinks he is funny but he's not! Says rude stuff in front of my kids ....they are 21,20 and 15....
He wants to move away one day but I don't as want to stay close to my children. I have three . My youngest is 15 lives with his dad and my partner believes as soon as he is 18 we can move away ..errr no! If we actually do I don't think we will but even the thought of it terrifies me ..I know my kids will grow up and probably move away themselves in the future....
I have always wanted nice home everyone visits and the idea of gran kids in the future excited me..them staying over, family meals etc etc. He don't...
My son comes stays with me at weekends...he has to turn his TV off by 11..he's not allowed to have food or drinks in his room. He constantly tells my son to turn down his TV..walk not run down the stairs...think his way off showing authority to constant moan at him..
Also he sleeps all the time.if he works 6am to 2pm .he is in bed by 6pm everyday...if he works late afternoons 2pm starts, he stays in bed till 11am.
He won't go anywhere....

Maybe it's me I am nearly 47..I just feel life passing me by...just alot on my mind..

Just fed up

Why are you letting him mistreat your son?

Your poor son.

Stop being so passive and letting this man ruin your life.

Why are you in a relationship with such a misery guts?

No wonder you’re fed up. He’s made you feel this way.

Why are you putting up with this man at all?. Why has your relationship bar been this low that this man was allowed into your life in the first place. he’s dictating how things will be to both your kids and you.

If this is all you think you deserve from a relationship you are so very wrong. You’ve already wasted the best part of six years on him, fgs don’t waste another six. This is who he is and he is not going to change for anyone.

You’re now 46, make your 47th year on this planet happier for you all by giving him the boot permanently.

I'd be surprised if any of your children want to visit if you are with him behaving like this. Honestly, stop being so passive. You decide what happens in your house! They are your kids!

It sounds like you don't want to be with him in the future. Why are you with him now?

Just... stop doing this. Stop living a miserable half life. Just stop. You can, you know.

Its not my house. Got no where to actually go....

You can figure it out. You are more powerful than you might think.

Your coming across as incompatible. What are your reasons for staying in the relationship.

Hoping it will get better it be ok..
Maybe it's me putting downer on it all..got no money no other options....
It's rented but in his name...

What's your financial situation?

Do you work?

Do you work, can you save for a deposit on your own place, how will things improve, can you talk to him about how unhappy you are. If you know deep down that you would be happier out of this relationship, then start planning on how to get out.

Yes 32 hours

Try to get the fuck put Op, can you do extra hours at work to get more money?

It will take forever to save money..
I have tried to talk to him about my son. They just clash ..I explain to my son as bedrooms next to each other with plasterboards walls need keep noise down.. definitely when in his ps4 headset... but being 15 he comes back with attitude then that winds my partner up etc....he's first man since my marriage broke up maybe that's why they clash....

I want date nights or more effort...I want to go on tenancy agreement for security....

My partner's say I got to.plan for future but I don't want to move four hours away....

Mean parents say **

Work more hours and don’t choose to be financially dependent on a man you don’t like who is a dickhead to your son

Stop hoping that things will get better re this man because they will not. This is who he really is. He will never put you on a tenancy agreement because he does not value you at all, you’re but a convenience for him to use. Your son and he clash because he is abusive to him too.

Was your ex H like this I.e abusive as well?. Is this why your relationship bar is this low?.

Better to be on your own too than to be as badly accompanied as you are now. If this is what he is like after six years further putting your head into the sand ostrich style will do you no favours.

You want date nights and to go on the tenancy agreement...while your partner is horrible to your teenage son and is trying to make you move 4 hours away

He doesn't like the idea of you being involved with your family, future grandchildren, etc
He won't go anywhere
He stays in bed ridiculous amounts of time

Yeah I can totally see why you would stay with this Prince

Your children won't want to come and visit you when they're older if you're still living with this man. They must despise him. I hope you find a way to leave really soon. Life's too short.

Is this godawful man why your son has chosen to live at his father’s instead? You need to leave and live alone, somewhere you can create a peaceful home that’s yours and where you children can come.

You don’t need a man. I wonder if perhaps you think you do, especially as you’re currently dependent on this piece of crap for housing, but you don’t need him.