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Advice on weird interaction with bf

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Moonchild009 · 14/10/2022 23:06

My bf told me to watch his Instagram story but forgot he hid it from me. I found out as I went onto my other account and could see it. I sent him a message to let him know and he called me a short while after. He was really weird on the phone, I think he was embarrassed but he just seemed uncomfortable and was talking about everything (well nothing) other than the elephant in the room. I decided to call it out because I was getting frustrated which is when he finally said he hid it from me because he had been really busy and didn’t want to rub it in my face… he also said he didn’t want it to come across shady and said he done it a while ago. I was just really offended, should I have been? Offended because he did it and offended because he was being a coward about addressing it. Granted, we have been rocky recently and he also told me he doesn’t feel emotionally safe with me at the moment which leaves me wondering how to manage the situation. Am I overreacting? Was it weird of him to do? Was his reaction weird?

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BoredOfLooking · 14/10/2022 23:15

I don’t understand. What was the instagram story saying?

vegang · 14/10/2022 23:16

Yeah that's weird, why would he have previously blocked you from seeing them because he was busy? Did he think him being busy would upset you?! Weird behaviour

Aquamarine1029 · 14/10/2022 23:23

Fucking hell, end this shit relationship already.

Byfleet · 14/10/2022 23:24

This is like an overheard conversation between 14 year olds.

User1014 · 14/10/2022 23:25

I'd be concerned if my boyfriend decided to block me from seeing his instagram stories. I'd be thinking he's either going out with other girls and doesn't want me seeing, or he's done it in the heat of the moment out of anger, which means he's an immature child. Either way, it's not looking good.

End the relationship before he drives you insane.

VeridicalVagabond · 14/10/2022 23:50

Unless you're both 15, this is ridiculous.

Seaoftroubles · 14/10/2022 23:53

You both sound very immature. He doesnt feel 'emotionally safe?' What does that even mean? And what was this lnstagram story that he invited you to view, and then forgot he'd hidden?

OnTheBrinkOfChange · 14/10/2022 23:55

How old is he? Instagram stories, really?

mindutopia · 15/10/2022 04:51

This all sounds like a mountain out of a molehill. If I’m understanding correctly, he has previously been off doing fun things without you, hid his stories from you so you wouldn’t see and feel upset/jealous/etc, and then forgot to un-hide them. That in itself doesn’t seem like a big deal? I hid my Facebook posts from my Dh as wanted to post something perfectly innocent I didn’t want him to see. I now can’t bloody get it to un-block him. I can change it, but then it just defaults back to him being on my blocked list. Who the hell knows what I’m doing wrong! But the thing is, it wouldn’t be a big deal for either of us.

I guess it depends what he was trying to hide and how he’s responded since, but I really couldn’t get too worked up if this is a one off.

JustKittenAround · 15/10/2022 05:10

What the hell are you talking about?

Your bf told you to watch something

which you did

but he forgot to block you from it?

illogical and really a waste of anyone here’s efforts of making sense of. Get mad and indignant if you want but I’m not the one posting this….this….cluster of words.

How old are you?

whatever the situation if you’re a high value woman then these games are beneath you. Move on. If you’re low value and like to wallow in the mud with the rest then keep putting energy into what is comically dusty clown level.

up to you, of course!

JustKittenAround · 15/10/2022 05:11

lol watch this man be 41…. 🤡

tuvamoodyson · 15/10/2022 05:37

eh?

whoknew123 · 15/10/2022 06:18

Byfleet · 14/10/2022 23:24

This is like an overheard conversation between 14 year olds.

This.

NotaCoolMum · 15/10/2022 07:41

JustKittenAround · 15/10/2022 05:11

lol watch this man be 41…. 🤡

😆🤣😆

GroggyLegs · 15/10/2022 07:51

What does emotionally safe mean?

Does it mean 'you cannot disagree with anything I say because I feel sad?'

Because that's manipulative bollocks right there.

BlueCupOrangeCup · 15/10/2022 08:17

I don't think it's immature. Some people use social media a little with just a couple of the features, some people use social media with all the features, some people don't use it at all. I find this spans all different ages. Perhaps I just have an open mind and a wide and varied circle, though.

OP in terms of your actual question - from someone who uses...and understands stories, their use and how they work etc. (I'm 35...if that matters) -

It is odd that he would want to hide his stories from you for a length of time. On the one hand I'd feel concerned that he felt he couldn't share something with me (was it just something he'd worry you'd think was cringey?) or is it more sinister in that it was a sex, drugs and rock and roll weekend?

None of us know the answer to that and all posters can do here is guess according to their imaginations.

Have you asked him outright, what was it specifically that he posted that he didn't want you to see?

Byfleet · 15/10/2022 09:21

*What does emotionally safe mean?

Does it mean 'you cannot disagree with anything I say because I feel sad?'

Because that's manipulative bollocks right there*

Exactly right

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