Alone is shit

[Viviennethebeautiful]

Lived in birth family and married for 26 years. Never alone. Not even at uni ( not always partner but flat mates)
Built great career two kids, marriage. Mortgage allowed him to extend on one signature

This was a massive error.

i am half or less worth what I should have been. Please remember was I earning 79% of this. He spend 70% of the total amount
yes was stupid, yes I thought he could take this one task off me. God I was stupid.

hewas proven to be shit with money🙈

i admit domestic tasks were so hard, given he asked for every stage to be describe I stupidly did these should have showed him the door.

. Can’t ever forgive myself

When it blew, and was found out he was acceptable. He signed the (debt ridden house) to me totally. I do have a modest but decent house, I own. No debts with my name Bought my house outright no mortgage

I can help my children financially.

bloody hate having no one to holiday with.
son getting married in Australia. I am going but alone and I know that I will be the only one of the parents who will be alone

thankyou for letting me rant x

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You are feeling like shit, but shouldn't be. Let's look at the facts:

• You have two children
• You own your own house with no mortgage
• You've got rid of a useless partner
• You are debt free

So enjoy your son's wedding in Australia. Unless you purposely seek out attention or make a drunken show of yourself, nobody's attention is going to be focused on you hardly, unless you make a speech or referred to in a speech. How many weddings have you been to where your thought of it is "I can't believe that one parent of the bride/groom came to the wedding alone"?? My total is zero, I have never been to a wedding where that thought even crossed my mind.

If it's what you're used to it might be a sad feeling to be alone, but honestly from everything you've described, you sound in a far much better position now than you were.

Being alone is wonderful!
Nobody to argue against what you want to do. Nobody to have to compromise with. Nobody trying to tell you how to live your life. Nobody you have to stay with because they are the breadwinner.

So no. Being alone isn’t shit.

Feeling lonely is though.

There is a difference.

It sounds as if you have been through a lot and have come out on the other side feeling battered by life. But honestly - it takes strength to get through all of that intact and you should take a few moments to give yourself credit for that.

Getting used to such a radical change also takes time. It is however possible to turn lonely into alone and happy. My own marriage had a fairly explosive end and I have now been single almost 5 years. My DC have left home though the younger two still wing back now and then from uni. I enjoy my life. I can cook what I want, watch what I want, leave the dishes if I want. I don't have to pander to another person. I have interests, things to occupy my time and a social life. All those things are possible.

I hope you find the same happines I have in your own time.