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How to move forward

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Herewegoagain1416 · 14/10/2022 16:41

Hi everyone, so I have a partner and 2 kids, we’re not married. From my point of view I’ve been questioning things in my head for a while and wondering if he’s my life partner and if he asked me to marry him I don’t know what I’d say.
I met another guy, nothing has happened and it’s not going to but I do feel something more could be there. He’s in a similar situation to me. I’m in two minds what to do next, do I ignore the feelings and get on with my life or keep him at a friend level and if we were ever single things might develop.
Has anyone been in a similar situation? Could you offer some advise please?

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Watchkeys · 14/10/2022 16:49

You're conflating two issues that are independent of each other.

You're unhappy in your relationship, whether you have feelings for this other person or not. Deal with the situation you have, then, once that's done, choose what to do next.

Pandorapitstop · 14/10/2022 17:08

Agree entirely with PP.One thing at a time.

KangarooKenny · 14/10/2022 17:16

Don’t leave for the new man. If you want to end the relationship, end it and be alone for a while.

Autumntime2022 · 14/10/2022 17:22

Your head’s been turned, do the right thing and finish things with your partner, don’t start anything with the new man until everything has been settled.

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Herewegoagain1416 · 14/10/2022 18:24

Yes you’re all right. I’m battling things in my head as I’ve always just plodded along in the relationship with these feelings in the back of my mind, no one has ever tested them but then bang someone makes you question everything

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saltofcelery · 14/10/2022 18:28

How do you know he's in a similar situation? If you're confiding in each other and he's turned your head, it's already an emotional affair.

If your partner is not making you happy, have a chat and decide how you can move forward, together or apart.

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Herewegoagain1416 · 14/10/2022 18:34

saltofcelery · 14/10/2022 18:28

How do you know he's in a similar situation? If you're confiding in each other and he's turned your head, it's already an emotional affair.

If your partner is not making you happy, have a chat and decide how you can move forward, together or apart.

Even if he told me based on us being friends?

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