Ex's girlfriend harassing me

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I can't quite believe that I am in this situation, but my ex's girlfriend has begun sending me psycho messages.

My ex forced a child schedule that wasn't great for me a few years ago. Now it's what we are all used to.

He found a woman who he can dump childcare on and now he wants to change the schedule. I disagreed because the new schedule would involve arrangements that I don't think are in my daughter's best interests, and she really doesn't want a change.

It turns out that the girlfriend is driving this harassment campaign. She started texting me yesterday on WhatsApp and then was nasty to me in person, then complained by WhatsApp about my daughter disrupting what would otherwise be her free time.

I blocked her and she has now sent an insane and ranting SMS. It's fairly clear that she thinks my life as a single mother is amazing and I owe her something.

I think that I should ignore? It's so confusing.

Text your ex and tell him to keep his girlfriend out of arrangements about your child.

Keep all the texts, ignore, but if they escalate or continue reply telling her to stop contacting you. If she contacts you again contact the police, it’s harassment.

Block her number.

Did you ever go to court previously? Tell him if he can't care for your child that's fine but you'll have her. It's not up to his new girlfriend to parent your child.

How old is LO?

You need to make clear to your ex that the gf is not to be involved and that if she keeps harassing you, it will be escalated to the police. I'd also say you don't want her involved in the care for your child as she is clearly aggressive

Make it very clear to your ex that you will communicate with him only, I'd also monitor how she's behaving to your child.

Keep all.the messages and tell your ex to keep his woman away from your child. This is definitely not someone I would tolerate having anywhere near my child. If she continues with the threats inform the police and get some legal advice regarding your ex's access

I'd have her nowhere near my kids.

What is it that you find so confusing?

Of course you should ignore her. Message your ex and tell him that's what you'll be doing.

I don't think that there is any way to keep her away from my daughter.

I'm considering giving in because if I change the schedule, I will almost never see either of them. The ex is an abusive, horrible man who makes dropoff and pickup a misery half the time.

@excelledyourself I am confused because have tried to be nice to her and she inserted herself into a discussion with my ex. I politely told her to mind her own business and she won't lay off. She has suggested that I am a bad parent (for a bizarre and baseless reason). She seems unhinged. She also seems to think that she's doing me some kind of favour looking after my child.

She's also very posh seeming, which for some reason led me to believe she would be more controlled in her behaviour (I am foreign so maybe I don't always have the best understanding of some cultural things).

@girlmom21 my daughter is 6. He will lie and say that he's also involved in her care

I wouldn’t really constitute that as harassment
she is complaining about an arrangement that you all three of you seem to reluctantly have
you both need to arrange a schedule, which suits you both. He should be looking after his daughter, not his new partner.
if my partner put his childcare arrangements on me, I would be annoyed too
this is on him

You might not be able to stop her being there when your ex has the child but there is no need for discussions with her. Only discuss with your ex. It's none of her business. Block her.

Zombie

I ended up blocking.

A few months later, they crashed my child's birthday party and tried to take half the gifts. The girlfriend made sure she was in every important photo. And then they announced as they flounced out that they were having a baby.

They are not stable people.

If you have Facebook, there are free editing groups that will remove her from any photos.

I cannot believe they chose that time to announce a pregnancy.