hi everyone
Ive been with OH for nearly 7 years, classic narcissist traits which unfortunately i have been too naive/manipulated by.
First year he was my dream guy, couldn't have treated me better and i felt like i had met the perfect man.
Since that first year it has gotten worse and worse, puts me down, no respect for me or our relationship.
He has been physical towards me on one occasion. The list of horrible things he has done would take me all day to write and i appreciate a lot of people will think well didn't you just leave but i think i kept hoping that the guy i met was going to come back.
I feel completely trapped, he works a lot and has an obsession with his football team and literally travels all over watching them (he has been on 10 European trips already this year). All his money and spare time is dedicated to this rather than me and the kids. We have one child together and i have a son from previous relationship. He speaks to me like crap and if i express how unhappy i am he just laughs and tells me to f**k off then. I made the mistake of putting him on my mortgage 3 years ago so he refuses to leave and i have nowhere to go and dont want to leave mine and the childrens home.
He has said that if i split up with him he will take me to court to try and take our son (2) to live in Australia with him as this is what he wants to do.
I have recently discovered he has been recording me without my knowledge but what he does is says/does things to wind me up and then when i get angry and respond (i know i shouldn't but im only human) he records it so it looks like im some crazy woman. I found a recording of me getting into bed because he had put the phone in the wardrobe. He has hacked my phone before too.
The final straw was last week, both kids were unwell and i asked him on the morning not to go to his football because of this, he started a row with me and said he was going anyway and left. I ended up taking my eldest to hospital and he had to have brain MRI because he was so unwell and i had to drop our 2 year old off at his grandmas whilst he was also unwell with a chest infection crying because he wanted mummy or daddy. I contacted him during the day to come home but he was drunk by that point. He left at 9:30am and didn't return until 1am.
I want to get away from this man, my children are my life and i cant stand living like this much longer and i hate how he makes me react and then he laughs because ive given him what he wants. His own parents want nothing to do with him because of how he is towards them and other people.
any advice would be greatly appreciated x