How did my self esteem get so low?

[Worrier449]

Me and my ex dated for 7 or so months however I was not allowed to meet his friends or family and he laughed when I cried so we broke up. He's 31, me 27. When I would try and block, he would find me on other socials and call and cry. Even though it ended, we still acted like we were dating. Found out he had a secret girlfriend. He used money and treats to keep me hooked when I was struggling financially. My therapist said if I kept him in my life he would ruin it. Him and the girlfriend are now serious and off on a romantic trip this week. I am floored. How did my self esteem get so slow? Can any of you ladies please tell me about how you recovered and learnt your worth and give me hope I will find love again. How did you get back from heartbreak? I feel slayed.

What things do you do that you would respect if someone else did them?

If my friend put up with this I would think she's absoloutly crazy

Stop making it about the situation. This is about you, and your own relationship with you.

What do you do that, if you saw another person do it, would make you say 'Wow, they're cool, aren't they?' If you don't have an answer, start making a list of things that would make you say 'wow'. Then start to do or learn a couple of them.

This is apt advice, thank you. Before the pandemic I did so much work and therapy on being alone and the pandemic undid it al so I made bad choices