Do you think he is about to ghost?

[Ltc2020]

Hi everyone,

Just wondering what people think.

Met guy on dating app 1.5 months ago. Had great first date. I then went abroad for 4 weeks and he kept in contact everyday. As soon as I came back we had a great second date (2 weeks ago now). He asked me out for the soonest weekend after but I was busy. We agreed to go out this weekend. He had been texting me earlier this week (last message Tuesday) but now communication has dwindled. The last message was from me, although it wasn't asking anything and didn't require a response. My anxious mind is now thinking has he met someone else? Does he not want to go out anymore? I'm now thinking he's going to ghost before Saturday? AIBU?

Literally nobody could possibly know.

Stop messaging him and pull back.

so many women chase here it’s unreal. It’s not game playing either. You’re not playing hard to get if you are hard to get. Be hard to get now.

telling you he will ghost if you chase because he will feel he could come back whenever.

Anyway it’s early yet. Busy yourself with other things. If he likes you he will message, he knows how. If he met someone else there isn’t anything to be done anyway. Try not to focus on him or any other man that isn’t proven worthy.

Message "Are we still on for this weekend?"

And plan a fun alternative to the date so you're not sitting at home if it doesn't happen.

There have been some lengthy gaps since meeting, through no fault of anyones, but it is conceivable that momentum has fizzled out. I think considering it is you that has been unavailable, a quick “are we still on message” is reasonable.

“There have been some lengthy gaps since meeting, through no fault of anyones, but it is conceivable that momentum has fizzled out. I think considering it is you that has been unavailable, a quick “are we still on message” is reasonable.”

This with bells on. It’s your availability which has slowed things down so I think it’s perfectly reasonable for you to be the one who tries to nail down the arrangement this time. He may be looking for someone he can see more often but if you like him it’s worth another email I think.

Thank you everyone. Yes, it is me that has slowed things down. I do like him and the last weekend invite was so short notice I couldn't cancel what I had on. @Dery love that you said 'worth another email' :p work mode. Ok, if I do not hear from him today I will drop him a text about tomorrow. I'm not really about the don't chase play hard to get mentality at this point. I don't feel I'm chasing someone or coming across desperate to confirm a plan they already made?

I'd email today to make plans for tomorrow. Emailing on the day would be too last-minute for me.

I agree with Ofcourseshecan - email today to double-check existing plans for tomorrow.

One chase up and then bin off nothing.

I'd do nothing about him and make other plans for the w/e.

If he wanted to see you then he'd have firmed up arrangements before now.

If he does contact you just be polite and say how you were looking forward to seeing him but when he didn't contact you, you assumed he was busy, and leave the ball in his court.

Personally I would expect a chap to contact me midweek at the latest for a w/e date.

It doesn't sound promising I'm afraid.

Guys it must be kismet because I did not reach out yet and he emailed me to organise this weekend

Hurray! I'm glad he's got back to you, OP. Just remember not to get too attached at this early stage.

So glad that you’re emailing 😀! (Yep - work mode and a give away on age, too, I think!). And good that he got in touch. Have a great date!