Hi there looking for advice. In process of divorce 2 young children (at school).
Financially Im not in greatest position small income currently from self employment and uc but managed to buy ex out of family home (with large mgage) with family help.
To me at the time this seemed best option as kids been through a lot of upheaval already and affecting oldest behaviour wise. There was also pressure of us losing the house completely due to exs debts (had a habit of going off on his own buying expensive things).
So, now I'm in family home (very modest) and ex got roughly 35000 equity which is around 13000 less than he would have got had house sold at market value.
He wants to use most of this to pay off debts and then buy his own home. He has a good job. Exact income undisclosed.
We are yet to go through financial settlement but because he was generous with home equity he does not want to contribute maintenance
or pension and no shares either which he also has. He also has a few other valuable assets but apparently he owes money on them .
Childcare he sees one child once a week with stay over but sometimes no times a week and other child he sees one evening with stay but drop off at mine and every other weekend...
This would be easier if I knew exactly where ibstood with his finances but he's never been open that way.
Together app 10 years but married about 4 excluding separation.
Thoughts welcome as to what would be fair