His ex is hanging around… weekends away

[Cannila]

It was my boyfriends milestone birthday recently and I found out his ex girlfriend booked them a weekend away for it while they were together. She ended it with him and according to him she broke his heart.

Anyway we have been together and happy, he told me she offered the weekend to him anyway for him to go without her. He didn’t offer for me to come with him but I wouldn’t want to go either. He missed out the part where he said to her if I’m not going with you what’s the point. I’m hurt, it feels like they will always have this weird little bond. I’m hurt that he didn’t mention me rather than going with her, I’m hurt that he’s still lying to me about having feelings for her.

Sorry but it sounds like he's not over her yet. Doesn't mean there will always be bond between them but at the moment something is still there. If she booked the holiday then you can't have been together long?

he said she booked it a while ago as it was expensive I told him I thought it was to get him back but he was adamant it was a surprise from ages ago. He says he’s over her but it looks like he’s not right

He's not over her at all.
How long have you been together? How long are they split up?

Hes still wants her, if i was you i would start dating again keep your options open
Because if she ever decides she wants him back he will come running

How long have you been with him and how long have they been split up?

Dump him. Don’t allow him to sit there playing like a dog with 2 dicks.

Nah he's not over her

he said to her if I’m not going with you what’s the point.

I’m sorry, Cannila. It sounds like you’re his rebound and he’s still carrying a torch for her. He said as much in that message.

I'm assuming you haven't been with him very long.

He's not over her. I wouldn't be dating him.

He's not over her. I also don't think she is over him either.

Why is she still gifting him an expensive weekend away if they no longer have a relationship? Most people would keep the holiday for themselves and just go with someone else instead.

Who us he going with if he hasn't asked you to go with him? I would think it's pretty likely they're going to go together as originally planned.

How do you know what he said to her?

Do they have children together?

In any case, he's not yet over her. That's not to say he never will be, but it seems as though his feelings for you aren't yet strong enough for commitment. And it would have been wrong for him to suggest taking you on a trip she planned and paid for.

How do you know he said that to her? Did he tell you he said that?

If my ex did this and I decided to go it would mean I'm not over him. If I was there's no way I would go, I can't imagine going anywhere with my ex.