Hi everyone. I was just wondering if anyone would be able to offer some practical advice on an ongoing situation with my mother in law.
I am so fed up of her behaviour towards me, it is affecting my health too.
Firstly. I have to begin with the note that she can be okay; we can laugh about things. She can compliment you too.
However, above all she is just very controlling. The things she likes to control are just a step too far. This woman is unreal.
I have tried with her but I just think she is also a massive narcissist.
It is difficult to well and truly explain the things she does so please forgive me if there are gaps.
A big one is my weight. I am overweight I know. It is caused by a medical condition, I am still waiting for treatment. However, I am working to counteract that with exercise and a reduced sugar intake. Yet, it is not the most effective thing in the world.
She is super obsessed with my weight and has to make a comment everytime she sees me. I have developed a-bit of an odd relationship with food because of her. If she knows I have eaten something she considers unhealthy, she gives me the third degree.
She is obsessed with my exercise routine, and tells me I need to do more because she doesn’t believe I have this condition. She has actively told me if I stop seeing my sister at a weekend, I could use that time to go swimming and loose more weight. (My sister is partially sighted and needs help with things like shopping as she cannot read labels.) This woman is not skinny either, she is bigger than me.
I am getting to the point where I am so scared of eating and getting very upset that the exercise is not working to how I want it to be, but deep down I know it is not my fault. I am normally very healthy, but this condition limits me. The fact that I am so upset about it all is absolutely knackering me. I wake up everyday absolutely exhausted.
Another thing she does, is whinge about how I spend my money. I go to certain events suited to my interests a couple of times a year, tickets are usually about a tenner. Even at the event I will spend about £20. I’m not highly paid, but it doesn’t break the bank. She hates me going to these events because they are not in her vision of how a woman should be.
And that is another thing, the whole womanly expectations. Our washing machine broke down and we had to wash some clothes at her house. I previously bought some new female boxers. I don’t like anything thrilly because they tend to play havoc with my psoriasis. I bought these female boxers as something comfortable, she was whinging at me about them being womanly.
I just wondered if anyone had any practical advice on how to deal with this.