Hi.
Ive been in a relationship with my OH for almost 2 years. I’m divorced and when we got together he’d only been separated from his wife a couple of months. We had been in a long term relationship with each other a long time ago, before either of us were married but never saw or had contact with each other after we split up until he separated and I came across him on SM.
When we first met up again I suggested we leave it until he had sorted everything out with his ex and he was sure they were definitely over. He didn’t want to do that as “he and his ex were definitely over and he didn’t want to loose me again”. Things became serious quite quickly.
I have 3 children, my youngest DS was only a toddler when we met and he calls my OH daddy even though we don’t live together. My OH has always acted like his daddy and we have talked about him adopting him in the future.
His ex gives him a lot of hassle, mostly about me and me having anything to do with his teenage children, who I haven’t had a lot of contact with due to her reactions to this every time.
My issue is that over the last few weeks I feel like he’s pushing me away. He doesn’t seem to want to spend much time with me or my DS and I feel as though everything and everyone else is more important to him at the minute. My DS is still only young and doesn’t understand why he’s not around and is always asking when his daddy is coming.
OH’s ex’s behaviour is getting him down and he obviously worries about how her behaviour affects his DC and he’s also starting a new job in the next few weeks.
When I’ve tried to speak to him about it he says everything is doing his head in at the min and he likes having some time alone. It’s not that I don’t appreciate that he wants time to himself but where does that leave us!
Am I overthinking this and I should just be riding this out or am heading for heartbreak for myself and my DS? I feel so confused right now.