Hello I'm new here. There is a woman I have befriended over the course of a few years. I don't know her that well but she is nice and a mutual friend of other friends of mine. She is single and gorgeous and she has this energy about her that men (and women) love. She is close to my age but doesn't look it at all. She is one of those rare types that never seem to age. Most often we get together with our female friends for events and I'm good with that. In conversation with me, she often asks about my husband and she seems to admire us as a couple and our photos on social media quite a lot. She has recently invited me and my husband to an event at her house. I'm trepidatious about bringing my husband because my gut tells me she is interested in him. Now, I typically don't worry about this kind of stuff with him. We go out with friends often and I never feel jealous. He knows most of my friends and he is very trustworthy. It's not him I'm worried about. He is loyal and loving to me and really an awesome guy. We have a solid friendship and marriage. As I write this, I think it probably sounds silly of me to even worry about going to this event. However, I know myself. I have had relationship trauma in my past with boyfriends and ex husband who cheated on me multiple times. I am working to resolve these issues in therapy but the issues are still there and I know it. I feel like this event will trigger me if we go there and she flirts with him or if I get any sense at all that there is some spark between them. When I am triggered, I have a hard time with keeping myself from panicking. I have some sort of panic attack thing that happens and that frightens me. Is it wrong for me to want to protect my marriage and not bring him to this? Or not go at all? Is it wrong for me to want female friendships that don't involve my spouse so I can feel comfortable?