Hi all!
MIL is giving me the silent treatment. We live in different parts of the UK and are scheduled to go visit her, FIL and BILs next week so it's currently quite awkward. Plus, I'm pretty sure if she does speak to me prior to us coming, she will be very insistent we change our mind before coming and it's making me feel even more awkward. So before that happens, I'd just like to know if I'm being unreasonable.
Thank you x
My husband, our 5 month old baby and I will be going to visit my husband's family next week and stay for six days.
Whenever we stay at his grandparents, who live in a different part of the UK from MIL, we always stay in a room because theres is enough space for us.
But it's different at ILs' because there would be three of us and we would have to share a bunk bed in the box room. We have decided to book 3 nights in a hotel 20 mins away from where they live and compromise by staying 2 nights at ILs' for comfort and room.
However, MIL is very unhappy about that, asked us to cancel the hotel and sleep the whole 6 days at hers instead and stopped talking to me.
I believe she only accepted at the condition that we leave the baby overnight at theirs in that case and not take him with us to the hotel instead. She also wants the baby to sleep with them.
I'm not comfortable with that just yet but that I'd be happy for the baby to sleep with them on the two nights we are at theirs instead.
So I think it's going to make things even worse when she finds out.
To top things off, she's pissed at me because she expects my husband to spend his birthdays at theirs every year, because she has time off, which happens to be around Valentine's day. I don't get time off at that time of the year. I already missed Valentine's day and my husband's birthday for that reason last year but she expects it to be a yearly thing, but I would never get to spend these days, that I deem to be special, with my husband, so he suggested going the month before or the month after and she has just been ignoring me ever since.
AIBU?
I know I won't hear the end of this when we do go next week.
So that I don't drip feed, I used to live with them before my husband and I moved to our own place before I got pregnant.
She kept asking me to move out, and asking my husband when I would be moving out, and making it VERY clear I was unwelcome. (not for us to move out, just me. As otherwise it meant my husband wouldn't be financially contributing to the household anymore and she would have "reconsidered the whole marriage had she known how much of a financial burden it would be" - mind you we didn't have any ceremony, expensive rings or anything like this so I wasn't trying to take the piss either). And made up a story about how it distressed her husband so much that it made him leave the household. Story that she told my mother. (He had already left the household before I had even met my husband).