Ghosting a player

[chasegirl]

Is it ok to do this?
Think I've been the 3nd or 3rd choice for a few months. Never sure where he was or who he was with. He'd never make definite plans for the future just vague ideas. Only saw him every few weeks on our own. I would see him socially occasionally too and he would act like I was a friend.

So I ignored his last message. Is this ok? I cam but too nice for my own good sometimes so feel a bit bad, like I should talk to him but think any conversation would end up with me feeling really bad.

It depends what his last message was.

If it was "send me a picture of your tits" then ignore him.

If it was "hey, sorry I've been busy with work, fancy getting a drink one night this week?" I'd respond and say this isn't working out for you and you should leave it there.

Naa , don't feel bad about it. Get fed up with it and see what his response is. That will tell you everything.

His last message was Monday and was just 'morning babes'. He never used my name

Of course you can block him. You can block anyone you damn well please.

Probably couldn't remember it. It's fine to ghost that.

Well done to you!
Of course you can, and should, ghost someone who you only have seen a few times and who is vague with you. Never feel you have to be nice, I can see you already know that can give you lots of troubles. Be nice to who is nice to you.

Yeah no discussion needed. Blocked makes sense. You don't want tedious piddle like 'hi babe' popping up now and again forever more. Clean break.

Just be civil and breezy if you see him socially, don't let him ramp your interest up by engaging you in private chats or laying on more attention after you've pulled away.

Put your happiness first everytime. Why go out of your way to make yourself miserable. If he isn't putting you first then block him for good. You did well ignoring his message. By replying you are just feeding his over inflated ego. He doesn't deserve your time.

never uses your name? Well at least he's being efficient with his time, same message for different women, making sure he doesn't fuck up by using the wrong name. same with morning babes. Not sure he deserves any more of your time and emotion.

Please do the mature thing and discuss (via messaging will do) why things aren't working. See what they say.

Surely you only need to block if someone is constantly messaging after you've dumped them?

Please do the mature thing and discuss (via messaging will do) why things aren't working. See what they say.

Who cares what this flake has to say? There is nothing to discuss here.

I always message to end something (whatever it may be) but I need to do that. I think ghosting someone you don't want to hear from keeps things open for them to reach out. I like it to be clear it's done, so they don't reach it.
Doesn't always work out that way but it makes things sorted in my own head.
I'd find it difficult to ghost someone, so I wouldn't. But that's just me.
If you're OK with it, then do it.

I haven't blocked I just didn't reply. No message from him since then which was Monday.

Oh I hundred percent think you shouldn't block him but just never reply. That will sting him far more I'm sure. I bet he does it all the time to his harem. Let him be on the receiving end of it now 👏

So I ignored his last message. Is this ok

Who do you think you'd be upsetting or bothering if it wasn't ok?

@Aquamarine1029 - I'd be curious to know why they think it's OK to treat someone like this so would give them a say. That's just me as someone who has been on the receiving end of flaky treatment.

That's what I think about a lot of situations. Too nice for my own good. No one will care I know that😀

"Morning Babes"? 🤨
Get rid.

That was yo Watch keys, I tried to reply but it didn't work

Protect yourself and don’t give him anymore of your precious time. Ignore him, you owe him nothing.

They don't give two fucks when they do it to us so take one for them team and do it 🤣

I actually think it would be good for you, for him and all the decent folk for you to ghost him. 👻

Lol don't believe it. Had a message from him. Hiya babes how you doing?

I'll ignore this 1 too 😃take it for the team like you said

He could have sent it to the wrong woman of course

“So I ignored his last message. Is this ok? ”

Do YOU think it’s ok?

I always work on the theory of if I wouldn’t like it doing to me then I won’t do it to them. Treat others as you would like to be treated.

In your situation, I’d probably send a let’s call it a day message rather than ghosting because, in reverse, if someone didn’t respond to a message I’d sent and left me hanging I’d think they were a bit of an arsehole and I’ve dodged a bullet. Not that they’d know that or care what I think of them but would you like someone to think you’re an arsehole and they’ve dodged a bullet for ghosting them?