I’ve been seeing my partner for four months. Very much loved up, however as we’ve become more comfortable/trusting with each other I’ve noticed they’ve begun to lose interest in having sex (direct contrast to very early days when they were quite forward and initiated it). I know people generally have less sex over time but four months seems a little early?
Part of the issue, I think, is how we each define sex. For me, whilst a “quickie” can be fun, the main joy comes from spending time being sensual, exploring each other and being intimate. My partner, however, very much equates good sex with more furious “fucking” - very much being taken by by someone overcome with passion. They love just cuddling and massages too, but don’t seem to want/need to combine the two. It’s either non-sexual snuggles or hard, dirty shag.
I wouldn’t want a hard dirty shag every other night myself. It gets boring. But would love a bit of loving, mutual pleasuring in between. My partner isn’t though and fear it’s only going to get worse once the initial “tear each other’s clothes off” hormones wear off (which they might be doing already).
Anyone been in a similar situation and can offer advice?