I back been dating a man for just over 2 months. We both agreed not to see others. He is a very kind and caring man. We both like spirituality, travel, historical places and psychology. I'm quite into my health and fitness but not too strict, he is the opposite.
My guy bumped his head 3 weeks ago on a light shade when we were at the pub and since then he has had burning pain in his head and ears, brain fog and sleepiness. He has been to the doctors and hospital and nothing shows on scans but the symptoms all point to a vitamin B12 deficiency.
He asked for my advice on how to recover as he knows I am into health. I gave him some supplements which he is taking and he is changing is diet in some ways. I only advised him as I have experienced this deficiency before and I care about him. The problem is he still goes to McDonalds, does not have a great diet and is struggling to quit smoking so his recovery will take longer.
I always wanted a man who is healthy. I am not one to change someone as I must respect it is his life and whilst I really care for this man I can't keep having him saying let's go to McDonalds and take away which I have started to say no and we went to a carvery instead on one occasion. He seemed surprised when I said junk food affects your body. It's like talking to a brick wall. Eating junk food gives me allergies.
I know he will recover but I didn't expect to feel like a carer so early on in the relationship. He had some minor health issues which he did tell me about before but it all seems to have got worse lately. He has since told me his mother told him not to tell me about his health issues but he said that wasn't right and he told me anyway. I don't like the fact she thought it was ok for him to hide it.
I respect he is implementing some changes into his life and change can take time. I don't know to whether stay with him or move on and find someone who takes their health seriously. I know he would be devastated if we broke up as he adores me and we had a very good friendship for 6 months before this. He is a good man and very caring which has been so hard to find.