We have been together for 10 years have 2 DC and own a "forever" home together. Been engaged for 10 years. However for years DP has given me reasons we couldn't get married. DD keeps asking if we will get married so I spoke to DP about it. He said we couldn't afford it (we could afford a small do) I said let's just get married at the registry office. To which he replied what would be the point in that. I then suggested we had a time frame in mind such as five years to which he replied that he didn't know what our financial situation would be then (he has doubled his salary in 4 years and gets bonuses and my wages go up a percentage every year). At no point did he say he wanted to marry me (Obviously he doesn't) or that he wants to be with me.
A few days later I did bring it up and said the fact that he didn't say he wanted to be with me hurt my feelings. He said sorry but still didn't say he wanted to be with me.
Some other things have made me question if he is thinking of leaving. He's cancelled his vasectomy despite us agreeing on only 2 DC. I counted he's gone 4 weeks without giving me a compliment. I jokingly said because you love me and he said no 😯. I had always naively assumed we were in it for the long run. We get on well but a bit lacking on romance since our new baby.