Crash 💥

[Melaniais]

Hi,

So I have found myself in the following situation. Married and we have two DD with younger one just over one year old. I have a stressful and long hours job so I took one year of maternity leave. When I was on maternity leave I used to take my older DD for after school sports and other activities etc. I enjoyed meeting and talking to other parents while waiting for kids. I particularly enjoyed chatting to one of the fathers, he was nice and really enjoyed his company. He was also playful with my baby. Really nice guy. They were other fathers to chat with but he seemed also coming and talking to me for most of the time. He's not local so I don't bump into him in other places like parks etc Because of the traffic, he said his kid wouldn't continue the activity in September. So I don't see him now and I really miss him. Like I can't stop thinking about him ... and catch myself thinking how much I would like to see him again. I don't know what drives me into this crash on other man, hormones ? I'm still breast feeding, next year I'm turning 40.. again hormones? I have a good relationship with my DH but we live like friends, sex very rare and initiated by me. While i really miss intimacy he blames small kids around etc. anyone experience similar situation? Married but dreaming of developing relationship with someone else?

Don't you mean crush? I suspect rare sex always initiated by you could be a factor. You want to feel attractive, and when your DC gets to be around 2 years, you'll feel even less in mumsy mode and more independent, so that could be a danger point.
Nothing more attractive than a man who ays and interacts with children, how hands on is your DH? Just thinking that the reverse is also true, nothing kills the feelings like a disinterested partner.
Also, apart from the sex, and probably more important, is general affection. Perhaps you are too much in practical mode all the time, hugs and kisses should still go on, hand holding ( if that was your thing). It's likely your relationship that needs addressing, otherwise you'd not be mooning over someone else.

Yes, I meant crush… can’t edit it. Thank for you post!

If this was a married man talking about a mum he'd met at the school gates the replies would NOT be so kind.

Why? It can happen to anyone I guess, doesn't matter man or woman. None of us was flirting or anything like that

It’s one thing to have a crush and fantasise, but if he’s with someone, you can’t really expect people on here to encourage you to try to hook up with him, surely? Especially when you both have children.

As a PP said, you need to address what’s happening in your relationship.