My ex is in and out of my life constantly and so far each time I have gone back there (pretty sure I am trauma bonded to him). I have worked a lot with my therapist around this, my boundaries and self worth and feel
i am making strides in this but I get the feeling he is going to attempt to come back into my life again and it is making me extremely anxious. We share a child together so seeing him is unavoidable.
My mum doesn’t understand why I am anxious as I can just tell him to jog on, which yes I can, but I don’t want any conflict with him, and he has become not very nice in the past when I started seeing a new man. So I would like to avoid that at all costs, why am I so worried about this?
i just want it to stop, I want to co parent and be friendly and that is it. I just wish I didn’t care or worry about him, I have tried a lot but it doesn’t happen! I don’t want to be with him or try again, I see now how wrong we are for each other and it seems more like a unhealthy crutch than anything else. I believe he isn’t happy with life at the moment, which is why he is seeking me out.
Someone please help me chill the F out 😑