I know it’s the wrong board for the title but it’s definitely relationship based!
I will preface this with my DH is generally lovely, for context we have had discussions in the past that I generally shoulder the greater part of the domestic load despite us both working full time (and me earning more!) but we’ve got a cleaner and I tell him if he’s not pulling his weight. He’s also got a foot injury at the moment (recurring) and whilst I genuinely think it does hurt he’s also milking it and doesn’t stop complaining about it.
so this evening I’m in the kitchen sorting bits out and I can hear our 2 YO DD a having a melt down in the next room where he’s sitting with his foot up, so I go in and get her, settle her in her high chair with a drink and some play doh while I make her dinner. At the same time I’m tidying up the kitchen, hanging out washing, taking out the recycling and thinking what I need to do to sort the house out before the cleaner comes tomorrow. Look at my phone after I’ve dished up dinner for my DD and there’s a message from DH (who
is sat within talking distance) saying ‘you give in to her (DD) too easily’. This is a recurring argument with us, I think he’s too strict with her - she’s only two and he expects her to behave as rationally as an adult, this evening she was tired and just wanted to see her mummy.
this was totally for me the straw that broke the camels back and it just made me burst into tears. I understand he doesn’t think he’s done anything wrong but am I being unreasonable in expecting him to care that he’s upset me?