Hi everyone, I’m posting this with the hope I find it cathartic and receive sound advice from people with experience and/or without the rose tinted glasses I suspect I have.
I met someone through a mutual interest (and something inside of me was screaming “that’s the one” - really weird but I hope some people reading this can relate to that overwhelming feeling I experienced) and we hit it off straight away. There was no mention of her having a partner until I asked a genuine question to which she then sheepishly mentioned she was in a relationship.
I did step back, but due to the mutual interest we both have resulting in us having to see each other, we found ourselves talking every day. It quickly became apparent that we liked each other and she voiced things weren’t right in her relationship, for x and y reason, as well as her being drawn to me.
Fast forward to just over a week ago, I told her I couldn’t do whatever this was anymore, I deserve better and to be someone’s first choice, etc. This lasted a couple of days before she reached out and told me she can’t walk away from this and would be ending her relationship within the next couple of weeks. I understood and still understand the reasons why she needed a couple of weeks (personal circumstances), but am sat here feeling really emotional about it all.
I have voiced this and said I will be reverting back to not talking and leaving her to do whatever she believes is best for her. I deliberately worded it this way because I do not want it to come across as though I am giving her an ultimatum, because I’m really really not. I’m old enough and wise enough to know that will not get me anywhere, or if it did, anything would be short lived because of the way in which I circumvented it.
I guess I just feel lost and hoping people can help me pick up my spirits. Thanks for reading.