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[Anonymous66]

Me and my baby daddy broke up a year ago, recently after he’s slept with other girls he now wants me back but I’ve stated I do not want that. Now that he’s seen via social media I’ve moved on he’s threatening solicitors for 100% custody as he doesn’t want to see my face. Will lawyers etc care that I’ve been seeing another guy and it’s on media as people are telling me this can be used against me for custody? I’ve openly stated I’m happy for 50:50 and he can see his son whenever but he’s adamant on 100% - he’s also threatened to use my old mental health against me prior to the pregnancy, I get so anxious when he’s in contact with me as he can get quite mean with name calling etc

He’s being a twat.
He’s jealous, possessive, and just trying to get to you. Stay calm. Repeat that he is welcome to see his child, set up access etc.. Repeat, repeat, repeat the same thing. Do not get drawn in.

It will not impact custody you having another partner, and he certainly won’t get 100 percent, no court would offer that unless there is a real safeguarding issue. He’s full of shit and bitter.

its what arrangement is best for the child, and they have a check list to assess which you can find online

don’t panic at all x

He is indeed full of bs and bitter with it.

This individual is merely using the child here to get back at you for leaving him. I would not offer 50/50 at all and why would you want that at all when you’ve been abused by him?. Using your previous MH issues against you as well is abusive behaviour on his part.

Womens Aid are also worth contacting as are the Rights of Women organisation.

The courts/lawyers will not care that you have a new partner, and it is not something that is used against you. I am a trainee solicitor and it is very rare for someone to be given 100% custody away from the other parent with no visitation. People who have committed crimes and are in prison are awarded visitation. And most importantly, as has been pointed out, unless there’s severe concern for the children’s safety (backed up by evidence and a CAFCASS report, and not just accusations), only then may the courts merely consider changing custody. But generally it is believed best not to uproot children’s lives if they are happy with the resident parent.

Stay strong! X

Wow can’t believe he is threatening you with loosing your child. I would cut him out of your life and your child’s as it is all about him.

My sperm donor was a selfish twat and I wish my mam had never given him access as he ruined my life. Sorry x