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Very unhappy dad

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unhappy83 · 09/10/2022 08:24

Hi there. I'm a 39 year old married dad with 2 kids, wanting some advice from any mums out there.
I work a 5 day week in London and try to help out at home as much as I can. My efforts to help clean the house are typically met with accusations of me bring lazy or 'never finishing anything properly'. She typically moans 5 or so times a day.
Example would be last Friday when I bought a nice supper in after she had a busy week. I also did her ironing and made a start on cleaning the house. She wouldn't eat the food because she said it was too late when she got back, then had a rant at me for not mopping the floors or doing any other cleaning. Last night I cleaned one of the bathrooms but she had a go because I had missed cleaning the bottom of the sink unit pedestal. She must have had a close look because it looked clean! The other night I finished a load of the ironing at about mid night, and left it on the kitchen table as I didn't want to wake the household by putting it away. The next morning she went ballistic because I hadn't put it away. I am starting to become very depressed and unhappy. Am I being over sensitive? I darent argue back or shout back because she then says I am Over reacting. I really don't know what to do. Is her behaviour normal??

OP posts:
Onceuponawhileago · 09/10/2022 13:29

Such a mumsnet classic post. Blame the guy always.

Sladurche · 09/10/2022 13:40

LuckyLil · 09/10/2022 12:10

Nicely turned against the OP there ladies. Obviously she will be beyond reproach for her own shortcomings. Perhaps speaking to her husband like crap when he does try to lighten the mental load isn't the best way to get his full cooperation.

I'm not saying she's right, I'm saying there might be an underlying reason for her moaning and that they should talk about it like grown adults.

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